Asking someone I met in a club to my debs?

LegacyUser

I'm a girl and our debs is at the start of September. I've yet to ask anyone to be my date. IMO and as most seem to agree, the ideal situation would be to bring a friend with you to the debs, but at this point in time, that doesn't seem very feasible. I do have a certain amount of male friends, but none of them are exclusively 'my friend' - but were introduced to me by female friends and so, all of them have already been asked.

At this point, I'm not particularly fussy about who I bring, in fact as long as he's male, I will be perfectly happy. I was out in a club last Thursday and met a guy, we spent some time shifting etc and I gave him my number. I had a text from him the following morning at half ten, which would surely indicate that he was somewhat keen. He suggested that we meet up again the next time I'm out, which won't be until Leaving Cert results night, which isn't until the 17th.

At this point, I'm basically hoping that I'll be able to ask him after meeting up with him on the 17th. My question is, would it seem incredibly desperate to ask someone that I've only met twice to my debs? It seems like a bit of an imposition, apparently renting a tux can cost about a hundred euro and I'd hate for him to feel obliged.

To further complicate matters, I'm not convinced that I even like this guy very much. While I obviously found him somewhat physically attractive whilst out, there's not much chemistry between us in texts, he doesn't seem to have much of a sense of humour or at least not one similar to mine. If it weren't for the debs, I wouldn't be very keen to keep up contact, but because of this situation I feel like I need to or I'll have no hope of finding a date v

It's a bit of a gamble to take to wait until after the 17th, when it will be only about ten days to the debs, operating of course under the assumption that he'll say yes.

Would you think it was strange to be asked to the debs by someone that you had met twice?

chicken fingers

you need to know the guy in a non boozed up place before you can decide if you should ask him or not.

LegacyUser

I did that many many moons ago..
to be honest the stress of finding someone to bring to the debs means lots of girls and guys bring partners that they have no interest in but the desparation that you have to bring someone outweighs the logic.
a friend of mine asked a random stranger to her debs
another friend brought her mums friends son..
there are no rules. ideally bring someone you can get on with.. the debs is about you and your mates but with bringing someone you do have to spend your night with them.. so once you are prepared to do that just ask away..
people do shack up with different peoples partners which happened at all the debs i have ever been to so its not the ideal night a lot of people hope for
in answer to your question no its not strange at all (its not ideal but definetley not strange)
just make sure he arrives on time treats you nicely is respectful to your parents and doesnt drink and drive
have a good night
its your night after all

LegacyUser

Well obviously that would be preferable, but I'm not looking for my dream date here, simply someone who wouldn't mind coming along and who I could hopefully have some craic with.

I've no idea how I would go about orchestrating a meeting with this guy in a non-booze fuelled environment without coming off as entirely desperate or else mad for a relationship...

stacexD

My friend done this last year, the guy knew some of the other girls dates and left to hang out with them after half an hour then wasn't seen for the night. If your friends are the type to keep everyone involved, or if theres some of your friends bringing just friends as a date it probably shouldn't be a problem.
When you think about it... you're not gonna be spending the night shifting the face off him whether hes your boyfriend or someone from a club, get a few nice photos and a couple of dances with him you'll probably spend the rest of the time enjoying the last night out with your whole year.
Edit: To answer your question, if he agrees and wants to go he'll surely have a good time, if he thinks it's weird... what harm just ask someone else

karaokeman

Just ask him the next time you see him.

It wouldn't look desperate at all, guys like girls to ask them to places.

I would be honoured if a girl I even met once asked me to a debs.

You've got nothing to lose so see how it goes.