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Despise the way I look sometimes

  • 08-08-2011 11:58pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I'm male, 23.

    I've a weird "problem", I hate the way I look at times, and other times I'm happy with my looks. I don't know how to explain it better than that really. I'm a good looking guy, I've been told it enough times over the years to (eventually) believe it and I suppose, deep down, I've always realised it too. But that doesn't stop me from feeling like I'm utterly hideous if the mood takes me. I despise seeing photos of myself unless they've been taken on a very high quality camera, or the photo is perfect. Otherwise I can't bear looking at them. I instinctively think my hair is weird, or my eyes are kinda closed, or my cheeks are too fat, or my nose is weird...anything that's "wrong", I'll "spot" it. Half the time I'd say I'm imagining flaws but I still can't help myself from hating photographs. Even worse is when I see a picture taken that has my face from the side, I cannot stand seeing how I look from the side - I always feel that I look like a frog or something from that angle.

    I hate feeling like this, it really gets me down at times. I feel so shallow and stupid but I can't help myself from feeling like this. But then again, there are times where I've felt that I am attractive and I'm confident in my looks and it really makes me feel a lot better about myself. I can never make this feeling last though. It comes and goes, swings and roundabouts.

    I feel so shallow and stupid. A "guy" shouldn't be feeling like this. Guys are supposed to be all macho and rugged, they're not supposed to be pruning over every last detail in the mirror...or so we're led to believe.

    I feel like I'm wasting time here. I should be enjoying my youth yet this always hangs over me like a cloud - it's always on my mind, lurking in the background. It's such a "silly" problem as well, it's not like I'm going to die or anything or it's not life threatening but yet it still causes me no end of torment.

    /rant


Comments

  • #2
    chicken fingers
    Closed Accounts Posts: 645 ✭✭✭chicken fingers


    Shít man I can't offer advice on how you look, but fúck that fúckin shíte about men having to me macho.
    Its more manly to spill your guts on a public forum than to act like jack the lad and bottle up how you feel and "act" macho.


  • #3
    Ickle Magoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    As per the forum charter, please keep replies on topic and helpful to the OP and reply to threads in a civil and well phrased manner - which means not making a point of circumventing the swear filter.

    If you haven't already done so, please take the time to read the [URL=" http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2056181484"]forum rules[/URL] in the charter.

    Many thanks.


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