was i a booty call?

LegacyUser

a little background first! i've known this guy for about five years through mutal friends, started texting 2 years ago from general from chit chat to very flirty, had a kiss on a night out a few months back (we don't live in the same county)

so he's been inviting me around to his house for months saying we should hang out i always said no cause i am shy and have been burnt by a guy before so was a little weary

anyway he starts working in the town i'm from and i meet up with him during the day on his lunch break, definate sexual attraction i invite him over to my house one thing led to another and we bumped uglies.
had a great night, next morning he was sweet, texted him midday, few texts swapped and then nothing.

that was 9 hours ago ffs he has free text messaging so no excuse and you can always take twenty seconds out of your busy life to send a quick text message.

so my question is people what do i do next?

I am a friend

Do nothing! Give him time to get home, do his washing, meet his friends etc etc and just chill out. Let him contact you and enjoy your weekend. Given that you had sex with him straight away there is a chance you won't hear from h but that's the chance you take. If he doesn't contact you then just chalk it down to experience.

Honey-ec

9 hours? That's nothing. If you haven't heard from him by the day after tomorrow, then yeah, chances are he's not interested. But seriously, you last heard from him earlier today and you're freaking out already? Chillax, do NOT text him, and just wait and see.

Miss Fluff

starting to panic wrote: »

so he's been inviting me around to his house for months

Good chance you were a booty call. If we was interested in you as a GF I think it more likely that he would ask you out for a few drinks or dinner if he was interested in something more. Very flirty texts and asking you to come around to his place would suggest he's looking for the ride.

He may however surprise you and ask you out so keep an open mind.

WHY you are freaking out over him not contacting you for nine hours is beyond me though. What would you have deemed an acceptable timeframe for you to hear from him again? Don't you think you need to relax a bit here? In answer to your question over what you shoud do, you do nothing. You have already initiated a text conversation, he has your details, so sit back and let him make the next move. He may or may not be in contact but I certainly wouldn't be contacting him.

booboo88

but its only 9 hours? not day? Hours seriously?
Im what you call a serial texter, mostly out o boredom in work, but even I know people cant text ALL the time

krudler

jesus, relax. he might be gone somewhere or doing something where he doesnt have his phone on him, not everyone is glued to their phones 24/7 I often mine after me going to work in the morning. or maybe he does want to text but doesnt want seem roo eager, he texted you already right? give it a day at least

anndub

You should probably avoid sleeping with guys you're not in a steady relationship with i the future if you're going be that emotionally vulnerable afterwards. You texted him at midday and he'd only left that morning, and less than a day later you're so upset you're posting here. You might have been a one night thing, but you can't make that judgement based on 9 hours of no contact. I mean, most people work nine hours a day and don't have contact with their significant others.

The best thing you can do is take a deep breath and forget about it. If you hear from him again, great, if not at least you've learned that casual encounters aren't for you. Don't contact him again, if he's into you he'll get in touch. Probably better to cut contact if suggests that your next "date" is in the sack though, for your own sake.

desertcircus

The most important thing here is that you understand that a nine-hour gap between texts is absolutely not a problem. Unless a text has a clear need for a timely reply - asking if someone wants to go to the cinema or the pub later that day - there is no serious obligation to reply as soon as possible. I know you may see that differently, but while that's entirely your choice, it will make things difficult. The vast majority of men will, sooner or later, take their time responding to a text, and will react badly if they're questioned about it.

Ben Dover and Phil McCock

Yes. Definitely.

dixiefly

starting to panic wrote: »

a little background first! i've known this guy for about five years through mutal friends, started texting 2 years ago from general from chit chat to very flirty, had a kiss on a night out a few months back (we don't live in the same county)

so he's been inviting me around to his house for months saying we should hang out i always said no cause i am shy and have been burnt by a guy before so was a little weary

anyway he starts working in the town i'm from and i meet up with him during the day on his lunch break, definate sexual attraction i invite him over to my house one thing led to another and we bumped uglies.
had a great night, next morning he was sweet, texted him midday, few texts swapped and then nothing.

that was 9 hours ago ffs he has free text messaging so no excuse and you can always take twenty seconds out of your busy life to send a quick text message.

so my question is people what do i do next?

Was your panicing justified? Did he contact you since?