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Is it enough.

  • 04-08-2011 10:50am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    My OH and I would be together about a year 1 / 2 we're absolute mad about each other, don't argue at all and if we do it's for a few hours, everything just works, 50/50 on everything, workload, dinner etc etc.

    She's the girl of my dreams and I love here to bits.

    Now family and marraige have come up and its something we both want and with each other, Now I've not popped the question yet but its inevetable, something that will happen. She knows this, I just have a few more things to get through before I do, probs in the next 6 months. We've even discussed a next year wedding, premature I know without a ring or commitment, but its just something we've talked about.

    We've both said we would like a large family, 3-4 kids.

    Income after a mortgage is paid would be about 80k

    I'd earn less than herself, something that doesn't really bother me at the moment as I do contribute to everything, we're currently renting.


    Now in 5 years I should be on roughly 50-60k it's just the nature of the business.
    But I don't want to enter into a marraige with the worry of not being able to provide a good life for my family if I can't contribute more to the household.

    So ye the question in a nutshell, is 80k AFTER mortgage is paid for the year enough to start a family on and live healthely.

    Thank you kindly for listening.


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Considering there are plenty of families surviving solely on benefits at the moment, I would say that you are in a seriously good position.
    I don't have a family but have friends who do and I honestly don't think many of them can say they earn that much.
    I think you are worrying about nothing.


  • #3
    johnr1
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    I agree with the above poster, and would even go further to say that you could rear a family happily, and not wanting for anything on half that amount.
    Money is totally relative, the more we have, the more we convince ourselves we need all the perfect pieces of crap with which to fill the spaces in our lives.
    I've had a sharp lesson over the last couple of years on how much/little we actually need to live, and its amazing how the stuff I would have considered important then are merely nice to have or just really unimportant now.
    Thats not to say that everyone should have to live on nothing, scrimping and saving and watching every penny, but I've discovered that happiness and contentment is not in co-relation or maybe even related at all to how much you take home.
    I understand your concern, its a subject close to my own heart, - having enough to be able to pull your weight in a relationship, especially if there are going to be children involved, but in this case anyway, whatever problems you encounter, they wont be not having enough money, unless of course you both are badly addicted to seriously high lifestyles.
    Good luck in your impending marriage OP


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