what should i do about this whole situation....

ryanch09

Basically a couple of nights ago i was out camping with my friends which was grand except there was one guy there who always seems to walk all over me in front of everybody else and make me feel like ****. This time however i had had a few drinks and he generally was being such a prick(trying to get me to sleep outside, constantly kicking me 'by accidemt') now usually i would have just attempted a few insults and walked off but as i was drunk i punched him three times in the face...now basically a lot of people are pissed off despite me telling them that he deserved it and how he treats me but they dont see my point all they see and hear is his side of the story....im really starting to wonder is it just me? or was i genuinly right to fight back(even if physically fighting back wasnt the best option) and how can i resolve this conflict....or at least get my point across....

any advice would be greatly appreciated...

AnneElizabeth

How did he start treating you so badly? Did any of your friends notice? I don't think there's any point in apologising to the guy because you're not sorry and to be honest I think he deserved it, what did he expect would happen?!

You're just going to have to try and talk to your friends are explain it. Unless they're very good friends with this guy, most people probably won't care and will have forgotten in a week.

With regards him, I very much doubt he'll hassle you again and if he does get other people to watch how he acts around you. Try to avoid him though.

Little Acorn

It's probably not the "correct" answer for me to give,I suspect the correct answer might be that you should have walked away, but tbh I think the guy deserved it.

He shouldn't go around bullying and KICKING people if he's not able to deal with a retaliation.

Out of interest what is "his side of the story", that people are turning against you over? Did they not see him kicking you all night, and trying to force you to sleep outside?

Esoteric_

The guy was out of order, but you were worse in this situation.

I know what it's like when someone is constantly belittling you and making you feel rubbish, and then it builds up and up until you explode, but you cannot explode by punching him in the face! 3 punches could have easily broken his nose/jaw/cheekbone and then you'd have been in serious trouble.

Yeah the guy is childish and a right little brat, but the way you retaliated was worse than what he did to you. Yes, he deserved it and I've no doubt that he's a little toe-rag, but I can completely see why your friends are mad because what you did in this situation was worse than what he did. Telling them he deserved it probably didn't help either.

ryanch09

Thanks for all your helpful replies im guna leave it another few days let things calm down before talking to any of the people but you've all certainly helped me look towards to the brighter side of this whole situation...

Little Acorn wrote: »

It's probably not the "correct" answer for me to give,I suspect the correct answer might be that you should have walked away, but tbh I think the guy deserved it.

He shouldn't go around bullying and KICKING people if he's not able to deal with a retaliation.

Out of interest what is "his side of the story", that people are turning against you over? Did they not see him kicking you all night, and trying to force you to sleep outside?

As far as I know(basically from what people tell me) he tells everybody he's doing nothing wrong and now thinks I have some sort of anger management issue =L He takes no responsibility for his own actions at all..

I am a friend

I dont agree. You are lucky he ahsnt done you for assault... A few side kicks in the shin do not justify punches in the face. Violence of this level is very scary for people and I guess you will have a lot of apologising to do. If a friend of mine did this, I would be slow to stay friends with them. terrible behaviour.

Little Acorn

ryanch09 wrote: »

Thanks for all your helpful replies im guna leave it another few days let things calm down before talking to any of the people but you've all certainly helped me look towards to the brighter side of this whole situation...



As far as I know(basically from what people tell me) he tells everybody he's doing nothing wrong and now thinks I have some sort of anger management issue =L He takes no responsibility for his own actions at all..

Well there's probably very little you can do with him, you could try talking to him to explain why it happened, but unless he's just an immature idiot who acts this way with everyone and doesn't realise how annoying he is, then I'd be fairly sure that he already knows why it happened. Him kicking you should be an obvious reason for him to see why.

You acknowledged in your first post that hitting him probably wasn't the best reaction (although perhaps an understandable reaction), so if this was a once off thing, then you can try to explain to your friends that it was very out of character for you, a once off thing that only occurred because it had been building up to it for ages with him constantly winding you up over a long period.

As long as your friends recognise that you just flipped, that you know it wasn't the right thing to do, and that you have no intentions of repeating any violence, they should move on from this quickly. You should talk to them to explain how it all built up, and how he was making you feel.

If talking things through with this guy doesn't work, then I think you should just try your best to avoid him in future.