Confused - try or move on??

allblack

I recently broke up with woman 3 months ago. I was going out with her for 2 years she has a child and it was all good. There was also an age gap of 10 years she been the elder. Some things played it part as the relationship grew even thou I was crazy about her. I found that we argued everytime we went out after drinking. I would get irate with her antics when drunk (been too drunk, messy, cocky) . I couldn't even talk to female friends in pubs without her somewhat butting in! On other hand I didn't show too much emotion in public etc. I say there is more on me!! Other things came to play : what we wanted going forward and i didnt know, yet at the same time knowing time was not on our hands had not long to decide if i did. To be fair absoultely no pressure was put on me.
I have after good space got back talking to her and now i cant stop thinking of her. Were on good terms. Missing the banter, the jokes the chemistry just her and all with it.
Also been close friends with single mates played somewhat a part as I missed the chase yet at the same time i'm back in it and fed up of it.
Is it that I like my space too much?? I know i do. Was age gap playing too much on my head? i been in my 20's - I know it did to a point. My financial situation not earning enough annoyed me too. Have i made a mistake? Should i ask meet up see if that click is still there for me. HELP!!! Views please.

I am a friend

What would be the purpose of meeting up?

allblack

Well in ways I want to know myself if the feeling is still there. Kinda like you text someone for a while it's great but when you finally meet up it's not there like you thought that click that reaction you thought you feel.. In ways I know myself if that will bring closure or not.... I won't rush into it. I must be fair to her me and of course the child.
I have asked meet her on Sunday for lunch in Dublin which we will. Suppose time will tell , still confused thou ha!
Maybe it's all me an she has no interest at all....... who knows. Do you feel meeting up would only make it worse??

I am a friend

I think you are meting for somewhat selfish reasons and it might give her hope where there is none...

allblack

Ok but why do you think it's selfish?? It's genuine I do like her/ miss her.

I am a friend

allblack wrote: »

Ok but why do you think it's selfish?? It's genuine I do like her/ miss her.

Well maybe selfish is a bit strong but you are only meeting her cos you miss her and you want to see how you feel.. There is no real concern about the effect it may have on her.

allblack

Ok i understand where your coming from there. I miss her alot and also know deep down she is meant for me. Do you not feel that if you never try you never know. An that shall there be a chance take it slowly and iron out the issues that caused it before.... attitudes drink etc. ??
At end of the day i'm leaving myself open not her.

I am a friend

Ah ok well you have explained it better now. Its worth a go.. life is darn short... Good luck.

allblack

Cheers. An thanks for the input a different opinion always helps too. Sure time will tell.