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Getting Back In Contact... without looking like a stalker!

  • 03-08-2011 2:00pm
    #1
    DazMarz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,493 ✭✭✭


    As it says on the tin...

    Was gonna go unreg'd for this one, but I said I wouldn't. For anyone that doesn't know, I'm a 22 year old male and I live in north Co. Wicklow.

    My concern is this; ever since I was 14, I've carried a torch for a girl I went to school with. To me, she was the prettiest, nicest, sweetest girl in the world. I was never able to ask her out or anything during our time in school as she was going out with a friend of mine. They broke up in (or shortly after) 6th year, but obviously we all drifted our different ways after school. She went to one college, I went to another, etc.

    But we'd still occasionally bump into each other, on the bus or whatever. And I swear to god, those few times we met each other, I felt like it was the best time of my life. We just talked about normal things, told jokes, caught up on how we were doing, but to me it just felt like the best. Just being able to talk to her. And she hadn't changed one bit; she was still the same wonderful person I remembered from all those years in school.

    I had a big, mad conversation with one of my best friends about this last night, and he seemed to think that I should try to get in touch with her some way. He made the point that if we got into contact and something came of it, I'd be happy or that if we got into contact and I got shot down... he said at least it would be closure, and I could move on and in some way forget about her and drop the torch. I think he was spot on, in fairness.

    Now, what I would like to know is, how do I get back in contact with her? I'm friends with her on Facebook and everything, but how do I go about getting back into contact without looking like a complete and utter stalker or a big weirdo? I haven't probably seen her in person in about at least 18 months, and I don't want to just out of the blue start saying "HI! HOW ARE U?" over Facebook or something... any advice? Thanks in advance!


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  • #2
    MitchKoobski
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,101 ✭✭✭MitchKoobski


    Aww DazMarz is in wuuuvv :pac: I kid!

    "Hey [name]! Keep running into ya around the place so I said I may as well talk to you on here! Hows things?"

    Use via Facebook/Text/Where appropriate.

    Always good to get closure on these kinda things, whether good or bad.


  • #3
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    If you're friends with her already on Facebook why don't you comment on a couple of funny links she posts or make a witty reply or two to a status update she makes and see if it engages her? If you do that a couple of times over the next while it will be then easier to drop her an email....


  • #4
    DazMarz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,493 ✭✭✭DazMarz


    K
    MitchKoobski wrote: »
    Aww DazMarz is in wuuuvv :pac: I kid!

    "Hey [name]! Keep running into ya around the place so I said I may as well talk to you on here! Hows things?"

    Use via Facebook/Text/Where appropriate.

    Always good to get closure on these kinda things, whether good or bad.

    Haha, yeah... I am in wuv... very badly.

    As I said though, I wouldn't have seen her in person for over a year, so it's hard to say that I've seen her around. I'd love to just get back chatting and just see how the land lies. I'm gonna try anyway, just see how things go.


  • #5
    DazMarz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,493 ✭✭✭DazMarz


    Miss Fluff wrote: »
    If you're friends with her already on Facebook why don't you comment on a couple of funny links she posts or make a witty reply or two to a status update she makes and see if it engages her? If you do that a couple of times over the next while it will be then easier to drop her an email....

    Was on my mobile earlier and couldn't reply to this message for some reason.

    But yeah... will try that for sure. She doesn't seem to be active on Facebook much, but I'll try to get into a dialogue with her over it and just see where that goes!


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