Gray Suite acceptable for Debs ?

RonyPonyBah

Hey !

have the debs in two weeks and i'v fallen in love with this gray suite from debenams, it's very similar to this


Would this kind of suit be acceatable to wear at the debs ?

baby and crumble

It's a gorgeous suit, and it depends on if your Debs is 'black tie' or not. If it is, then really you should be in a tuxedo. If it's simply 'formal' then that kind of suit could look really well, so long as it fits right.

RonyPonyBah

It fits me perfect ! lovely fit !

OldGoat

I've always assumed that a Debs dance is a formal event and as such you should wear a formal dinner suit - a tux. Does your invite mention formal, semi formal or give any other dress code?

I'm sorry. I tried to walk away from this thread without commenting on the suit. Honestly I did try to remember that if you can't say anything nice then say nothing at all...but I can't let this one go. That suit is horrible.

Most of the male posters here will know by now that I don't like slimfit suits and this suit is a perfect example of what I hate about them.
The sleeves are too short. The body is too short. The peaked narrow lapels on a single brested jacket make your head seem HUGE and the narrow shoulders only emphasises that.
The flat front trousers give you a Ken (of Barbie and Ken fame) silhouette. The single button cheapens the jacket and the sloped pockets and pocket seam/welt make the jacket look like a schoolboys blazer.

Sorry again.

Toto Wolfcastle

My brother wore a darker grey suit to his debs and he looked great, much better than the lads in a tux who looked like kids dressed up in daddy's clothes. Go with a suit if you like it.

silly

I too wanted to walk from this thread but I can't...

Suit - formal wear for men/ women i.e items of clothing.

Suite - a large room in a hotel, including a bedroom, bathroom and living area.

Or

A three piece suite - a couch with usually a 3 seater, 2 seater, armchair.


Anyway, I honestly think that most debs are formal, black tie. So I wouldn't go with it if I were you.
It would be nice for a wedding etc... But not so much for a debs.

Toto Wolfcastle

Please do not comment on the spelling or grammar of other posters. You knew what he meant.

I have been to a lot of debs, both as a guest and through my job, and suits are definitely becoming the norm unless it's specifically a black tie event.

puppydogeyes

Hi I never really post here but can't let this go. My sons debs was a couple of weeks ago and there was guys there in black suits with both ties and bows. There was grey suits ,some guys had shirts to match the girls dresses. Some girls had long dresses , some had short. Even some of the mothers came dressed up.....??????
Anyway my point is if you like it and it suits you then go for it. This type would not have suited my son as he is too tall and too solid looking (not skinny,i guess)
Parents really don't have the money to spend on a tux that will just be used on one occasion and a suit like this could do for an interview again. Every one to their own IMO

OldGoat

puppydogeyes wrote: »

Hi I never really post here but can't let this go. My sons debs was a couple of weeks ago and there was guys there in black suits with both ties and bows. There was grey suits ,some guys had shirts to match the girls dresses. Some girls had long dresses , some had short. Even some of the mothers came dressed up.....??????
Anyway my point is if you like it and it suits you then go for it. This type would not have suited my son as he is too tall and too solid looking (not skinny,i guess)
Parents really don't have the money to spend on a tux that will just be used on one occasion and a suit like this could do for an interview again. Every one to their own IMO

I'm asuming that the OP's Debs is formal wear. What was the dress code stated for your sons dance?

Apologies for going even further off topic here. Mods, please delete if ye deem this unacceptable.

Would you hold the same attitude to your son's wedding? Would you find it acceptable if your wedding guests were to turn up for the event without any care to a dress code at all? The debs dance is an opportunity (and for most a once off opportunity) to attend a formal event, and to take a lesson in grooming, etiquette, wardrobe and deportment.
If you can skip over the dress code of the debs then you can skip over the dress code of the job interview, of the wedding, of the funeral, of the award ceremony, the meeting with the President, the dinner with the GAA club on winning a final or whatever future event also happens to have a dress code.

You may dismiss the Debs as a non event in comparison to those events of the future but this is the first of many events he/she is likely to make and as a first it is (currently) of the highest importance to them. The debs is a nerve-wrecking event and the anticipation of it is filling the minds of all those attending.
Why turn it into something ordinary when it should be extraordinary.

As to the costs paid out by parents for the event the same burden was on parents in every decade past since the debs dance thing started and we’ve (mostly) managed so far.

Toto Wolfcastle

It's just a debs though. It might seem important to some people at the time but when they look back on it it won't be important at all. I certainly couldn't care less about my debs, back then or now. As long as you look smart it's fine and teenagers often look better in a suit than a tux.

My fiancé's 21 year old nephew asked if he had to wear a suit to our wedding and I told him to wear what he wants. As long as he's there and comfortable that's all that matters.

As for the job interview, I think that one would learn the hard way if they decided to go against the expected dress code there.

OldGoat

Bobblehead Panda wrote: »

It's just a debs though. It might seem important to some people at the time but when they look back on it it won't be important at all.

Ya see, to me thats THE important thing. To them, at this time, it IS the most important thing in the World. Just because I know that the debs is not the be all and end of all things dosen't mean I should detract from what the debutante is excited about. I'm more for building up the event in their eyes rather then lessening it's place in the greater scheme of things.
Just look at the number of threads we get each year about hyped up debs goers pleading for dress advice or gloating up because they have found the dress 'of their dreams'. How many young men actually bite the bullet and post here asking advice? It would seem important to them.

Again, all this debate hinges on the OP's invitation and it's dresscode.

RonyPonyBah

Thanks for all the replies !

I can't see any notice of the debs being black tie or formal so i'm just going to assume is formal