Kinda freaked out

checkcheek

ok this doesnt relate specifically to LGBT but i feel its where im gonna get the best answer


Ok well im 18 and the bf is 18 too. We have only bein goin out 3 weeks but tonight we were just havin a lazy night at his house just the 2 of us. Takeaway and a film(grown ups, great film wanted to see it in cinema but never got around to it)

So anyway the film came to an end and we were just kinda talkin. And things went further.

Were both virgins. So its the first for both of us, anyway things were going further and we were kissing and other things, so i was goin to go give him a Bl*wjob(if im not allowed say that sorry)

It was my first time down that part of his body and OMG did i get a surprise, His pen*s was peirced(ouch) and i freaked out. i kinda just went, i told him i didnt feel weel all of a sudden so i headed home.

Now i dont mind that its pierced, each to their own, but im kinda worried-we've talked about havin sex and i want him to be my first-hes so kind and caring and i trust him. we talked about top and bottom and we both know where we stand.

Im a bottom and now im worried, I really like this guy but the pen*s piercing is just different, like will it rip the condom or what and then if now just saying IF we dont use protection could it get lost in me, sounds stupid i know

I should talk to him about it but dont wanna upset him

cgcsb

well that's a toughy, I've met guys with it done, straight guys and they say that there's no difficulty, just stick on a condom the same way and it works fine. In my honest opinion, I have no idea why anyone would want to have their pee hole sliced open and have a metal bar shoved through it meaning that you have to sit down to pee for the rest of their life, as well as exposing themselves to a lot of infections and STIs, but I'm sure they have their reasons.

ninty9er

I wouldn't think it'd be a big deal for him to take it off when you're both ready to have sex.

I think it might be good to let him know that you were a little freaked by it. He might be wondering if he did something wrong and I'm sure he'd understand.

syconerd

as ninty9er says above talk to him about it
if he feels for you as you feel for him he'll understand and take it out for you
my partner of 23 years has piercings now i understand why he wanted then i just dont like em for me but in a relationship you have to compramise thats the way it works
ok sorry bout spelling
john.

remember talk to him nothin is too big to solve with a chat .

checkcheek

ninty9er wrote: »

I wouldn't think it'd be a big deal for him to take it off when you're both ready to have sex.

i wasnt sure if there that easy to come off

i think im just really shocked as he never striked me as a guy who had it done

Annasopra

I don't think you can just take it out

baby and crumble

Yeah, I don't think piercings come out that easily in certain places. I know you can take out earrings pretty easily, but somewhere like a penis will have developed an aggressive healing system I would have thought... the body will try and heal any wounds pretty quick as it's an area that would get infected pretty easily. That means a long session without the ring in will mean it'll close over. Plus he might heal quickly anyway, and people who naturally heal very quickly will have a tough time putting a bar or ring back in- I heal really fast and my eyebrow piercing closed up in about an hour. Ok, not fully healed, but enough that I'd have had to 're-pierce- it myself, and nobody wants to do that to their nether regions!

I'd just talk to him, and say you're worried. Also, maybe check out the piercings forum, they have some threads on Prince Alberts, and you might find out some new info there...

checkcheek

ye thanks everybody.
seeing him tomorrow so will say it.

And im sure we will sort it out, just a minor bump on the road of happiness

ninty9er

A quick google says they can come out depending on the type.

Don't think it's a huge issue. And hey op...enjoy!

Locker10a

checkcheek wrote: »

ok this doesnt relate specifically to LGBT but i feel its where im gonna get the best answer


Ok well im 18 and the bf is 18 too. We have only bein goin out 3 weeks but tonight we were just havin a lazy night at his house just the 2 of us. Takeaway and a film(grown ups, great film wanted to see it in cinema but never got around to it)

So anyway the film came to an end and we were just kinda talkin. And things went further.

Were both virgins. So its the first for both of us, anyway things were going further and we were kissing and other things, so i was goin to go give him a Bl*wjob(if im not allowed say that sorry)

It was my first time down that part of his body and OMG did i get a surprise, His pen*s was peirced(ouch) and i freaked out. i kinda just went, i told him i didnt feel weel all of a sudden so i headed home.

Now i dont mind that its pierced, each to their own, but im kinda worried-we've talked about havin sex and i want him to be my first-hes so kind and caring and i trust him. we talked about top and bottom and we both know where we stand.

Im a bottom and now im worried, I really like this guy but the pen*s piercing is just different, like will it rip the condom or what and then if now just saying IF we dont use protection could it get lost in me, sounds stupid i know

I should talk to him about it but dont wanna upset him

Ohh my god you have a boyfriend :eek: searously jealous here!:p
Wish i did ! Enjoy loosing ur virginity btw and relax about the piercing! though im surprised an 18y/o has that done! Being that age myself i cant imagine any lads i know being that brave But good luck i wish i could have lost my virginity in a relationship like urs:(

checkcheek

Locker10a wrote: »

Ohh my god you have a boyfriend :eek: searously jealous here!:p


though im surprised an 18y/o has that done!

Youll find someone when u least expect it, believe me. I met him in an off licence


Ye thats what shocked, like he didnt strike me like the kinda guy that would have it done


Anyway had a little chat today and we talked and he explaiined and all so i think were good!! Sure its all an experience

plein de force

Glad yous have sorted it out now
i'm 18 too and can't imagine why anyone would have pierced down there, think of the pain, ooouuuch!

floggg

I'm kind of curious now to see how things work out! Always been puzzled as to how sex would work with a piercing down there!

jaffacakesyum

Hope things work out for you mate! And remember.....I was the one who urged you to ask him out ;p Invite me to the wedding hehe

Printemps93

jaffacakesyum wrote: »

Hope things work out for you mate! And remember.....I was the one who urged you to ask him out ;p Invite me to the wedding hehe

Chief bridesmaid me thinks :P

!!!

I got it done when I was 17...

Anyway, after I few months I could leave mine out no bother for as long as I wanted.

checkcheek

!!! wrote: »

I got it done when I was 17...

Anyway, after I few months I could leave mine out no bother for as long as I wanted.

OUCH

I really dont know how people could survivee the pain, my man said the worst was looking down and seeing a big needle like thing poking into his penis, oh and the blood for like 3 or 4 days after