Feel I don't measure up

LegacyUser

Ok this is a bit embarassing so I must go anonymous. My girlfriend of 8 months is having trouble getting an orgasm during intercourse. In fact she has never orgasmed with me during intercourse but she has through oral. She has told me that she always had with her last boyfriend and it could be a size thing as he was on the large side.
This has dealt my confidence a huge blow and while I am not exactly small, average I think at 6.5 inches, I feel very inadequate. I am wondering now if I will ever please her now that I am not big enough and its getting me down. I dont know what to do as it is really playing on my mind.

gypsy_rose

If she's with you 8 months, she likes you a lot. We do pick out men on other factors than just their penis size! Be thankful you can at least make her orgasm through oral, you're both very lucky, a lot of women can't orgasm through sex at all...

minidazzler

OP, 6.5 inches is actually on the large size itself. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_penis_size#Erect_length

Have ye tried different positions?

Also, she shouldn't really talk about past boyfriends being better, it's never a good idea. You are definitely big enough to get the right spots, maybe it has to do with thickness? That said though, try different positions, you are pretty likely to find one that works for both of ye if you keep trying. And it's not like it's not fun to try.

gerryk

This is most likely more down to technique than size. Do a bit of research to see what positions and techniques are best for orgasm. You know what she can, so it's just a matter of finding the buttons to press to make it happen.
See if you can determine what she likes best... talk to her about how she gets off herself and see if you can bring those areas more into play when you have sex.
Learn a few 'stamina' techniques, so if she does take more than 5 minutes to get there, that you can keep going.

lace

By telling you you're not doing as well as her previous lover, your girlfriend isn't going to help the situation. This is something you need to work together on.

You're perfectly normal (in fact, for the Irish average you're a little on the large side) so it's probably less to do with your size and more to do with what you do with the body you've got.

Perhaps try having a look at some new positions online together. Deciding which ones you like, which one she likes and bargaining about which ones to try out can be quite fun!

If you keep trying different positions and refining your technique you'll eventually find something that works for both of you. Get her to guide you and tell you what she likes and doesn't like (without the words "I liked it when my ex boyfriend would....") :P

ted1

You can't do anything about your size but can change your technique. Remember he is an ex for a reason and your the present so your one op already

LegacyUser

Ok I dumped her last night. I thought about it over and over, weighed it up against what I read here and decided that she has given me a complex.
Heck I went as far as measuring circumference and its 5.5 inches which is roughly the 90 percentile. Thanks for the link to the chart by the way.
I went through all different positions,techniques etc over the months and I was making sure I was lasting up to 20 minutes.
She had no right to compare me to an ex so I dumped her and I feel all the better for it. She can go back to her ex, I have had enough of the callous bitch. I mean imagine me telling her that she doesnt add up to my ex cause her breasts are smaller? FFS wished I done it sooner.

King of Kings

good man. she sounds like an eejit

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Paul1990 wrote: »

Ok I dumped her last night. I thought about it over and over, weighed it up against what I read here and decided that she has given me a complex.
Heck I went as far as measuring circumference and its 5.5 inches which is roughly the 90 percentile. Thanks for the link to the chart by the way.
I went through all different positions,techniques etc over the months and I was making sure I was lasting up to 20 minutes.
She had no right to compare me to an ex so I dumped her and I feel all the better for it. She can go back to her ex, I have had enough of the callous bitch. I mean imagine me telling her that she doesnt add up to my ex cause her breasts are smaller? FFS wished I done it sooner.

You should have told her the truth - there's nothing wrong with the size of your penis she just has a large vagina.

Ickle Magoo

As the thread has just descended into petty insults and jokes better suited to other forums, I'm locking it.