What did I do wrong?

LegacyUser

Okay gonna try make a long story short. Met a girl off online dating. Texted loads. Met up on first date, went great, kissed. Had a second date, great again, kissed. Then she went away abroad working for a few months but when she got back she texted me, asking how I was doing. We texted away loads again and arranged to meet up again, but she was feeling sick on the day so we had to cancel. We wanted to meet up the following week but I could not cos I was away on hols. Anyhow, we chatted away again over text while we waited to meet up, however, one night last week when I had a few drinks I texted her that I thought she was a really nice person and that I liked her. Since then she has gone totally silent, hasnt replied to any texts. What did I do wrong? We were getting on really well

coolcat63

You probably haven't done anything wrong; she may have met someone else, or changed her mind or have some other problems you aren't aware of than coincided with your message. She may have lost her phone! Why not give her a call and just ask if she's OK?

LegacyUser

The mistake you made was telling her how you feel so early. You gotta keep your cards close to your chest when it comes to expressing your feelings, at least at such an early stage. When you're married then maybe you can tell her you like her(maybe). When you tell a girl so early on that you like her what it communicates is neediness which is a big turn off. Yes women like men who can express emotions sometimes but its a balancing act, too much too soon and she'll view you as a wuss not a potential boyfriend.
Chalk it off to experience man, dont text her or chase her in anyway, that ship has sailed. Learn the next lesson for next time, keep how you feel to yourself.

ILikeBananas

user59850 wrote: »

When you're married then maybe you can tell her you like her(maybe).

Hope that's a joke because otherwise I have to ask is it the 1940s all over again?

Colonel_McCoy

You made the mistake of telling her how you felt too soon.

In future lean back and dont text when you are out drinking.

moco

It could have been more that she didn't feel as strongly about you at that moment. in future just try and be more sure that she likes you as much as you like her before saying anything early on. It can be more exciting at the start when you're not 100% sure of the other persons feelings.

Also, in my experience the men who are very full on at the beginning turn out not to be genuine. Maybe she's been in similar situations

Miss Fluff

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one night last week when I had a few drinks I texted her that I thought she was a really nice person and that I liked her.

What time did you text her? You see most women at one stage or another will receive texts from horny numpties late at night who are chancing their arm in the hope of maybe getting the leg over. If you texted her at a late time and drunk then she probably automatically assumed it was an attempted booty call from you so if she liked you she probably has now disregarded you as just being after one thing.

Ickle Magoo

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jdman

Ok cool, do you mind me asking why? Can't even recommend books to read?? And I quote "What did I do wrong?" Come to think about it, this whole discussion is PUA methods.

Ickle Magoo

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