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Another confusing situation

  • 31-07-2011 6:46pm
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    I have known a girl for about 3 months through a group we are both in. Recently she broke up with her boyfriend of a few months, and I picked up a few signs that she was interested in me so i suggested we get a drink sometime, she said this was a good idea. But turned out to be harder in practice than i thought, she was somewhat elusive to the actually going out.

    The other night we she was was walking home and I to my bus stop, and she says to me, "oh maybe, I could go for one beer". So, of course we hit a pub. I kissed her there, and no sooner had my lips touched hers she said she is worried about getting involved as her visa is about to run out in september. There was a lot more kissing after, and obviously, this girl is attracted, but has been obsessing over where it could go, and perhaps she is worried about being forced to leave the country with a broken heart. She says she does indeed like me and has for a while ( and i like her ) but I am beginning to suspect she may be a complicated woman. SHe said she wanted a serious relationship, and so would I, but its either the visa situation or some thing else that is confusing it all in her head.

    What do you people think? I would rather give this a go, even for the few weeks that are involved, and rather than never know, and i said this to her. How should i proceed, or can I? Its my ball(s) her court at this point, but it is wrecking my head to be so near and yet so far.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,064 ✭✭✭Distorted


    Obsessing over you and scared you'll leave her with a broken heart, is she? Are you sure its not the other way round? Maybe she just isn't all that bothered about you, sees you as a bit of fun, finds you a bit intense and doesn't want even a few weeks relationship but wants to be single just now. I think you need to cool it a bit. Whats meant for you won't pass you by - if she really wanted a relationship with you, she wouldn't let the issue of a visa running out stop it.


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