is it bad for the girl to make the first move?

LegacyUser

So basically I kissed a friend of an acquaintance. At the time I gave him my number (less than three days ago!) Sorta acted pretty casual about it at the time, there was some drink involved, but I actually did like him quite alot. He kissed me and he asked me for my number.
I didnt take his number, would it be weird if I found him on facebook and sent him a brief message to say hello. It was just a kiss but I cant get it out of my head! Mutual friend is saying nothing! Or should I just relax and wait to see what happens? Would be kinda disappointed if I dont see him again.

Otis Driftwood

No,if you are interested then why not?

Worst he can say is no.

Colonel_McCoy

Go for it!

I am a friend

I wouldnt personally. He has your number do if he were interested enough he would use it.

CrazyRabbit

Speaking on behalf of the majority of guys...if you want to kiss me, give me your phone number and then message me on Facebook, then you have my permission.

Seriously, just do it. He might have lost your number.

Miss Fluff

You'll probably appear pretty keen but if you don't mind that then go ahead and contact him. If he genuinely likes you he'll be delighted you did

Bipolar Joe

Yes, ask him sober, dammit! You kissed, yadda yadda, so give it a shot. Jeez, I wish more chicks would take the initiative, some of us dudes are too stupid to pick up on signals and ****.

ElleEm

If you like him, then go for it.

It's best knowing if he is interested rather than wondering "what if?".

MangoLime

I'd say just bite the bullet and go for it-you never know what could happen!

Good luck!

entropi

CrazyRabbit wrote: »

Speaking on behalf of the majority of guys...if you want to kiss me, give me your phone number and then message me on Facebook, then you have my permission.

Seriously, just do it. He might have lost your number.

+1

OP, if more women (I'll just guess that You are female here) were forward about this sort of thing and let it known to us men that ye are interested directly, instead of "signals" that we probably wont pick up on, things would be much easier in the end

Go for it!

R.D. aka MR.D

Like another poster said personally I wouldn't.

Watch the chick flick; he's just not that into you. It might be silly but i think there is a lot of truth in it, especially when i think back to how any of my relationships actually started.

The only thing you are risking though is rejection. So if your okay with that then go for it. I always consider these things after a meeting with a guy but i always find that the feeling passes after a week or so. Some of them contact me and some of them never do.

newbee22

I wouldn't. You gave him your number, even if he lost it ye have friends in common so he could easily get it from one of them. Or find you on facebook to message you that way. If he wants to contact you he'll find a way! No panic yet though, its only been 3 days!

JimiWonderDoor 92

Since there was drink involved he might not be sure if your that into him.
Or if it was just a spur of the moment kind of thing.

Girls do kiss guys (and guys girls) and think nothing much of it later.

Id still hold out that he may just be unsure but like you,

Just go for it!

Overheal

No.

Never.

It's never ever bad.

Women should do it more often.

JimmyCrackCorn

unregistered wrote: »

So basically I kissed a friend of an acquaintance. At the time I gave him my number (less than three days ago!) Sorta acted pretty casual about it at the time, there was some drink involved, but I actually did like him quite alot. He kissed me and he asked me for my number.
I didnt take his number, would it be weird if I found him on facebook and sent him a brief message to say hello. It was just a kiss but I cant get it out of my head! Mutual friend is saying nothing! Or should I just relax and wait to see what happens? Would be kinda disappointed if I dont see him again.

Relax go for it. As a man id consider it a plus.

parker kent

I think most men will say that they wished more women made the first move.

LegacyUser

Hey Guys,
OP here
Thanks for all your feedback! So heres the deal, I went for it. Sent him a really brief message on Facebook, 3 sentences, really light hearted with a joke about something we spoke about at the time. (Didnt request him as a friend) Sent it late last night and did I get a reply today...No.......nothing!

But you know what I'm really glad I did it and took the risk, would only regret if I didnt. if you like someone, you like them, why not take the risk. Im not embarassed infact it felt pretty damn liberating to just go for it! I guess things wont go any further but thats cool, can move on. The kiss was mind blowing so at least I had fun

Guys if you dont really like a girl, dont bother asking for her number, even out of politeness or looking for a way to end a conversation, honesty however blunt is the best way!

entropi

unregistered wrote: »

Hey Guys,
OP here
Thanks for all your feedback! So heres the deal, I went for it. Sent him a really brief message on Facebook, 3 sentences, really light hearted with a joke about something we spoke about at the time. (Didnt request him as a friend) Sent it late last night and did I get a reply today...No.......nothing!

But you know what I'm really glad I did it and took the risk, would only regret if I didnt. if you like someone, you like them, why not take the risk. Im not embarassed infact it felt pretty damn liberating to just go for it! I guess things wont go any further but thats cool, can move on. The kiss was mind blowing so at least I had fun

Guys if you dont really like a girl, dont bother asking for her number, even out of politeness or looking for a way to end a conversation, honesty however blunt is the best way!

I wouldnt be so worried about not getting a reply today...I know quite a few people who wont log on to friendface for up to a week at a time, so You may still get that message.

Fair play for taking initiative, You're feeling glad You did, and sure it has given You the confidence to do it again, should the need arise

LegacyUser

Master of Nothing wrote: »

I wouldnt be so worried about not getting a reply today...I know quite a few people who wont log on to friendface for up to a week at a time, so You may still get that message.

Fair play for taking initiative, You're feeling glad You did, and sure it has given You the confidence to do it again, should the need arise

Thanks master of nothing! :)I dont think anything will come of it but like you said I'm glad I got in touch and made the move instead of holding back and thinking what if....will be more confident in the future about these things...thanks again

LegacyUser

found out he has a girlfriend, boy do I feel
stupid!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Herrick

undregistered wrote: »

found out he has a girlfriend, boy do I feel
stupid!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Don't feel stupid you did nothing wrong, he obviously didn't stop the kiss and say he had a girlfriend so how were you to know? He's just a cheating dick. Haven't you had a lucky escape, I mean is that the kinda guy you'd want to know? He's the type of ass that gives the rest of us fellas a bad name :mad:

Also, don't let this experience put you off making the first move in future. I'm a guy and I'd love a girl to make the move on me for a change

Overheal

undregistered wrote: »

found out he has a girlfriend, boy do I feel
stupid!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Not your fault you couldnt have reasonably known about it. It's on him for letting it happen. The doof. You don't need him. But very cool that you went forward with it and gave it a college try

LegacyUser

Herrick wrote: »

Don't feel stupid you did nothing wrong, he obviously didn't stop the kiss and say he had a girlfriend so how were you to know? He's just a cheating dick. Haven't you had a lucky escape, I mean is that the kinda guy you'd want to know? He's the type of ass that gives the rest of us fellas a bad name :mad:

Also, don't let this experience put you off making the first move in future. I'm a guy and I'd love a girl to make the move on me for a change

Thanks guys, he actually wrote back to my message yesterday night and told me himself, his words were "oh by the way I have something to tell you....." I just felt a little silly for wasting my time or even bothering in the first place. In the grand scheme of things this topic is pretty trivial compared to some of the other posts on this forum but thought I would give an update after all your kind comments. Maybe I'll have to keep kissing frogs until I find a keeper

dellas1979

You, my dear, have absolutely nothing to feel silly about.

And kudos to you for pursuing the guy that you like. We need to see more of that around here!

ElleEm

dellas1979 wrote: »

You, my dear, have absolutely nothing to feel silly about.

And kudos to you for pursuing the guy that you like. We need to see more of that around here!

Here here!!

I have made many first moves, some worked out, some didn't, but it's a great confidence boost when it does work. And I've never had a lad act the pr!ck if they weren't into me. Any man I know thinks it's great when girls ask them out.