A women's opinion on starting a relationship please!

fitness2010

I have a bit of a quandary at the moment and would appreciate a women's opinion on it....

I recently met someone that I quite like... Now I'm not sure whether there's anything there but there might be.

My main difficultly is that the girl in question is off to New Zealand for a year. She's going for a year leaving sometime in September and probably won't even be back for Christmas.

So my question is what would you thing about starting something up when you knew you were leaving for a year in less than 2 months time?

Personally I'm not sure whether she's interested but I can't decide whether to go for it with her moving away....

LightningBolt

fitness2010 wrote: »

I have a bit of a quandary at the moment and would appreciate a women's opinion on it....

I recently met someone that I quite like... Now I'm not sure whether there's anything there but there might be.

My main difficultly is that the girl in question is off to New Zealand for a year. She's going for a year leaving sometime in September and probably won't even be back for Christmas.

So my question is what would you thing about starting something up when you knew you were leaving for a year in less than 2 months time?

Personally I'm not sure whether she's interested but I can't decide whether to go for it with her moving away....

Avoid asking. Let her enjoy her year away.

rainbow kirby

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rebel without a clue

if you are into her, then i think you should go with the flow for the next few weeks and then just have a general chat with her nearer the time, about her going off and that if she is interested in picking- up- where- ye- left- off, when she returns, that you'd like it. either way it goes, make sure ye both go away having decided what the storey is!! my friend went off usa for a year and expected to meet back up with former girlfriend when he got back. they actually hadnt even discussed it before he went!! she got a new bloke,now her hubby, yer man turned psycho for a few months!

ligerleo

GO FOR IT ... ASK HER OUT ... I BET YOU WILL HAVE A GREAT TIME WITH HER ... MAKE THE MOST OF THE TIME YOU HAVE TOGETHER AND LET TOMMAROW LOOK AFTER ITS SELF... I WISH U LUCK.... GO GET HER

fitness2010

rebel without a clue wrote: »

if you are into her, then i think you should go with the flow for the next few weeks and then just have a general chat with her nearer the time, about her going off and that if she is interested in picking- up- where- ye- left- off, when she returns, that you'd like it. either way it goes, make sure ye both go away having decided what the storey is!! my friend went off usa for a year and expected to meet back up with former girlfriend when he got back. they actually hadnt even discussed it before he went!! she got a new bloke,now her hubby, yer man turned psycho for a few months!

See part of the issue here is that I'll have no reason whatsoever to see her unless I actually go a take the plunge!!

Would be much easier to work if I was bumping into her on a regular basis.

LegacyUser

I guess I'm in a similar situation myself OP. I know you're looking for opinions from girls in her position but maybe someone who was in your position previously will help too?

I started seeing a guy at the start of the year knowing that he planned on moving away in the next year. Thinking it wouldn't amount to anything serious I kept seeing him. Now I'm head over heels in love and knowing the relationship will potentially have to end before we're ready doesn't make it easy.

Maybe it'll be different in your case because its only a couple of months that you'll have together, but just be wary as it'll always be at the back of your mind. She's going to be excited about going away and its not easy to listen too but of course you'll want her to be happy and can't expect her not to mention it.

I know I'm going to be heartbroken when he leaves, but I won't have any regrets. I'd much rather that time spent with someone then be left wondering what could have been.

Based on my experience, I say go for it!

fitness2010

Ah the more I think about it the more I'm leaning towards just going for it....

Like sure if I get knocked back it's not that much of a biggy - she's going to be gone for a year and I have no real reason to bump into her unless I take the plunge!

LegacyUser

Hi, coming from someone whos been in her position I'd say let her go. I started a rel with a girl a few months before I left for Australia and it was just too tough. You'll either end breaking up in 2 months or if ye decide to do the (very) long distance ye'll probably end up breaking up when shes over there. Especially after a month or two when the time yere apart is longer than the time ye were together.

You have two options the way I see it. Either enjoy the next few months with her or end it now to save urself the hurt when she goes.

Sorry to be so negitave but honestly I wish I'd been given that advise!