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Let down by friends!

  • 21-07-2011 11:53pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Im feeling really down at the moment. In the last couple of years I feel some of my so-called friends have used and abused me abit. I am not going to get into details with all of them but my feelings of feeling used and abused came to a head during the week. From the moment I met up with a friend she seemed to have a chip on her shoulder with me. During the year I was hurt over something she had done but drew a line under it and had moved on. But she was convinced I was giving her the cold shoulder, I honestly wasnt. Also earlier in the year she needed a place for her and her fiance to stay when there was a problem with their place. She asked if they could stay in mine and I said fine. They stayed longer than expected but I was fine with that as I had regarded her as a good friend. Like anyone I was happy though to get my place back to myself, jesus im human. Anyway she said she heard back I did not want them there. I was gobsmacked and demanded to know who had said it. Turns out her so called source is someone I barely know and had one conversation with and I didnt say anything of the sort, I am really hurt she thought that for months and obviously believed it and then thought she could accuse me like that the other day. We havent been in contact since. I will confront her so-called source when I see them but Im so gobsmacked why that person would even want to lie as they have no reason and they dont know me apart from a very brief encounter. I think if I dont hear anything in the next week its time to say goodbye to that friendship. She knows I was angry and upset. I feel upset to walk away from that friendship but what can I do?


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Dont wait for her to contact you to appologise, I dont think she's going to. I wouldn't confront the third party either. She knows she lied, she wont admit it Im sure and she'll stick to her story to remain in your friends good books.

    You had the charity to let your friend and her fiance stay in your house for longer than you were comfortable with and she had the cheek to turn around and be annoyed with you. And this was after she'd already been pissed off with you because she upset you another time. Ask yourself what your actually getting out of this friendship?

    She obviously thinks your a walkover and will continue to treat you like that as long as you let her.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    idle passerby wrote: »
    Dont wait for her to contact you to appologise, I dont think she's going to. I wouldn't confront the third party either. She knows she lied, she wont admit it Im sure and she'll stick to her story to remain in your friends good books.

    You had the charity to let your friend and her fiance stay in your house for longer than you were comfortable with and she had the cheek to turn around and be annoyed with you. And this was after she'd already been pissed off with you because she upset you another time. Ask yourself what your actually getting out of this friendship?

    She obviously thinks your a walkover and will continue to treat you like that as long as you let her.

    Thanks for that advice. Thats what I was thinking. Suppose I felt it was like a huge slap in the face when she said it to me. She had an alternative place to stay but she didnt want to stay there so me thinking sure we're good friends so you help each other out! I feel let down and disappointed in her now.


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