ran into ex

LegacyUser

I feel so riddiculous writing this as I know there are worse problems. But after work today, while shopping, I ran into a guy who I had been seeing on and off for a year, this ended a few months ago, when he finally admitted he wouldnt commit, but had I not brought it up, he would have kept the physical side up. Lucky escape I know and my head knows it, but for some reason my heart is still torn up as I really fell for him

anyway fast forward today I went shopping after work and he happened to be working in that centre, I nearly died when I saw him and legged it, Im sure he saw me walking so fast as I looked behind me. there was only one exit and he was by the door, so had to pass him out, I know he saw me and he deliberatly looked away. and now Im all torn up again, I had gotten to a place where I had accepted what he was like and that I was better off, but that one moment of him actually purposely looking away has left me feeling terrible again. even though I wanted to run away and not see him, my reasons were I was so hurt by this relationship, that firstly Id be a wreck and he'd see my face and know that and second I dont know what would happen if we met eye to eye.

I dont know what advice Im looking for here, but I feel so hurt by this now, and dont know how to left myself back up again now

Virgil°

You're feelings are normal enough. I saw my recent ex not long ago hanging out with some other guy in town. It was gut wrenching, I wanted to curl up into a corner and cry. But like the time after your breakup it passes. You've been through this now so there really isn't much more to go through in terms of breaking up.
It'll pass, quite fast aswell i reckon. Give it a few days. All the best.

LegacyUser

thanks for the reply, its not even just seeing him again, its how he reacted, to just turn away, when it was him who treated me terribly. granted our last talk was heated and I told him exactly how I felt he treated me, but in the same breath I maintained I didnt wanted hostility. Needless to say today was painful,

Virgil°

amessagain wrote: »

thanks for the reply, its not even just seeing him again, its how he reacted, to just turn away

He's an ahole. You know this for certain. Its just a reminder. In a way he's helped you. He's helped you remember you can do so much better. The bad feelings will pass soon enough.

neveah

I don't think it's a reflection on you OP, there's nothing worse than bumping into the ex, especially when things didn't end very well. Sounds like he was trying to avoid an awkward moment, cowardly behaviour alright but more of a reflection on him than you, he probably knows he treated you badly and is embarrassed about it. Try not to let it bring you down and make you feel bad. His loss. Anyway f he treated you that badly do you really want him anything to do with him? Forget him! Keep your head held high and brush him off. Onwards and upwards