Another confused one

LegacyUser

Hi everybody, going unreg for this one as i'm not normally the type to go on the internet and ask for relationship advice, normally the headstrong guy who just works it out and gets on with it.

I'm, in my early 20's, male,i've had my fair share of relationships, one long term thing for about 3/4 years but thats not my hangup.

I had been friends with a girl I met over the internet for about 5 years, altho we only lived an hour away, we had never met up in person. Eventually came a time where we decided to meet up just as friends, so we did just that, there and then, boom, I took a shine to this girl. So we chatted away for a while after, went on a few trips to the cinema etc. and she one day said to me that she needed more then just friends, she was falling for me pretty hard. She had only 1 or 2 previous relationships ( albeit she was a bit older ). I had fallen pretty hard for her too, so we started going out, things were going fantastic, about 10 months later all of a sudden I get a text saying its over. So naturally I was a upset and thoguht something must have set of her off or maybe she met someone else. Didn't dwell on it, just replied and got my stuff back a few weeks later.

So anyway some months pass, all of a sudden I get texts saying that she was thinking of me, first instinct was not to reply but in all honesty I was still missing her as she made me feel like no other of the girls I had ever been with did. So I replied and went through the usual chit chat. She then came down here after a couple of months just to meet up and see how things were going, as soon as I saw her I got butterflies. I know meeting up with her was probably the wrong thing to do but ever since then she is in contact, texting every day or so, generally being the way she was when we were together.

My head says to cut contact and ignore but my heart really doesn't want to, i'd still gladly get back with this girl in the morning. I know the saying that your heart is an idiot but i'm really just looking for other peoples opinions on this.

Probably lots of details missed but i'll mention them in replies if necessary.

Moomoo1

perhaps you should ask her to explain the way she has been acting?

Kiera

If you want to get back with her you need to sit down and talk about why it ended in the first place? Did she ever give you a reason? If so, what was it?

curlzy

Did you never get a reason for her dumping you? What the hell? RUN OP, she is a headwrecker. I wouldn't touch someone like that with a 50 ft pole, she's using you and throwing you away and then picking you up again. Don't get back with her unless she has some pretty good reasons as to why she's treated you like sh*te.

Best of luck.

fallen01angel

After 10 months she dumped you BY TEXT:eek:That's pretty awful behaviour to say the least.I think you should be demanding an explanation for that before you waste any more time on her,and truthfully,even if it's the best excuse in the world I'd still cut all contact.No one deserves that kind of cr*p.

LegacyUser

Op let me get this straight, you get a text after 10 months, saying its over, and you dont want to know why? Ill tell you what, i have been once bitten (not a patch on 10 months though, we were only dating) ill tell you what though, dont think Id let it happen again though, god knows whats going on in her head or what shes up to. My point is if you get taken for a ride again, how is that going to end?!