How To Deal With This Friend Any Tips

LegacyUser

Theres a guy Im friends with a year and a half now (Keith) hes alright most of the time-but if out on a saturday night say-any situation or Interaction with girls at a club or a bar-he completely ruin it for me and anyone else that happens to be there-for example-there was one night out-two girls approached us making small talk-when one of the girls asked us our names-keith said real bluntly to her what do you wanna know for?-they left pretty quick-at first I thought its just shyness with him so I said I leave it pass once.

But only recently two weeks ago-a girl came over to us-to try to talk to him-he put his head down and turned away from her-she asked me whats his problem-all I could say hes extremely shy-she just listened and gave him a dirty look-after she was gone myself and other friends asked what his problem was why wouldn,t he talk to her he kept ranting shes wearing a mini skirt shes prob a slut I wouldn,t touch her-another night myself and mate were chatting up two girls the second keith came back he wouldn,t talk to either of them he kept turning away when they tried to talk to him-but luckily myself and other mate got the two girls out in the dance floor while the other fellow was left by himself- the best way I could describe it is its like he,s putting up this sort of defence walls/barriers around girls- I don,t wanna fall out with the guy-I tend to be a passive person very rarely get into rows or arguments- but its gets annoying when out if myself or someone in the group tries to talk to girls-and him being rude not talking to them keep turning away-how do I bring it up in a nice way to ask him whats his problem if a girl tries to him or tries to talk to one of the lads in the group, why does he keep turning away and acting rude towards them?

Kevin Duffy

Keith might be gay, or have a problem respecting women 'cos of attitudes at home, or may be very shy with women and express himself badly, or may think he's coming across as cool and not realise what's he doing, or maybe something else - hard to know really.

I don't know your age or social situation or other things that may affect how you handle it, but I'd be inclined to suggest that you might have a word with him and ask why he does those things. Depending on the answer, that should give you some idea what to say next. If it was one of my friends though, I'd probably be saying that if he does those things again, he can't come with you on nights out anymore.

billy the squid

Aye, you can't really have much of a friendship with someone if there are elephants in the room, this needs to be tackled head on.

Ultimately though the only one that can deal with this is Keith, he has to be told how damaging his behaviour is and that it has consequences.