He cheated

LegacyUser

Hi

Going unreg for this, maybe someone has a bit of advise for me.
I was with my boyfriend for nearly four months when I find out he cheated on me maybe 6 or 7 times with his ex.
Me and him got very serious very fast and I honestly thought /think (I dont know anymore) that he was the one.
We got on great and seemed to like and get on with each others familys.

I never liked the amount of contact he had with his ex, but apparently they are best friends so I kept quiet. Though he knew how I felt.

Even tried to make friends with her, facebook etc.

Then I found out, he lied said it was a once off thing, she rang me let me know every little hurtful detail. Got my number from fb thats a lesson learned right there.

He rang the next day and came clean.
He says he is sorry , wants to start again. Sents me texts everyday apologising

I don't know if he can choose me over her. I dont know if I can trust him.
Any one have any advise
tnx

Otis Driftwood

He cheated on you 6 or 7 times in the space of 4 months?????


Whether its with the same person or with 7 strangers its still cheating,in fact its nearly worse that it was with an ex.

Seriously,if you have any self respect left ignore him and do not get involved with him again.

fghijkl

I honestly thought /think (I dont know anymore) that he was the one.

He's not "the one" if he was he wouldn't have shagged his ex 6 times.
He doesn't respect you.He doesn't love you.

I don't know if he can choose me over her. I dont know if I can trust him

Sorry what?!
Why are you even waiting for him to choose one of ye? Have you any self respect left at all! Why would you even want him?

Also i may be wrong but i get the sense from your post that you blame the ex?
Your "boyfriend" is the guilty one in all of this. He's the one that disrespected you by having sex with another woman, he's the one who lied to you. At least she had the decency to tell you.

It sounds like the ex doesn't want him anymore so he's come running back to you. Do you really want to be the 2nd prize? someone else's sloppy seconds?

gargleblaster

fghijkl wrote: »

At least she had the decency to tell you.

This.

Count your blessings, OP. Bullet dodged.

I am a friend

Don't walk- RUN away from this guy

Toots

6/7 times in 4 months is like once a fortnight or something!! That's way too often to even be chalked up to a temporary lapse of judgement (possibly alcohol induced). If you've got any self respect, stay away from him, himself and the ex deserve each other.

MitchKoobski

She had to be the one to ring you for you to find out the truth, he wouldnt even tell you himself.
6 or 7 times in four months? Say good riddance.

LegacyUser

thanks guys,

thing is he left his phone behind him one night, went to give it to him. He had left it open on a text from her asking him to come to hers the next day. I confronted him, he told me.

Afterwards she called me, after he told her goodbye to rub it in my face.
But I think maybe I am better off on my own

LighterGuy

another point of view wrote: »

...Then I found out, he lied said it was a once off thing, she rang me let me know every little hurtful detail. Got my number from fb thats a lesson learned right there.

He rang the next day and came clean.
He says he is sorry , wants to start again. Sents me texts everyday apologising

I don't know if he can choose me over her. I dont know if I can trust him.
Any one have any advise
tnx

He only "came clean" because the previous day she told you all, right? ...

Op, you cant trust him. Its over.
I know its easy for me to say that. But hey, i've been there too.
If you get back with him whats going to happen? ... you wont trust him. and rightfully so.

want some really good advice?
A "Mistake" is rarely a mistake in this world. We do what we want/desire. And you cant make a mistake 7 times.

curlzy

Hey just wanted to say that if you are considering taking him back then you need serious professional help. Get into councelling. You deserve way better than that.

tinkerbell

He cheated on you six or seven times? He is not the one. He does not give a crap about you OP. Seriously, you need to get that into your head when you start thinking of taking him back. I mean six or seven times to be cheated on is insane in a long term relationship, nevermind a relationship of four months.

You can do much much better than him. Dump him. And stay single for a while to sort out your own confidence issues. THEN you'll be ready to go into your next relationship. I mean why bother giving him the time of day and caring about him when he clearly does not care about you at all? If he did, he wouldn't have cheated on you once nevermind seven times.