wish i a group of friends

LegacyUser

hey.. am just fed up looking at facebook after the weekend and seeing my other friends putting pictures up of there great nights out, and going on about the great night they had, it makes me so jealous i never had a big group of friends and at dis stage never will, my birthday was last week and not 1 friend would even come out to celebrate, then when its someone elses every1 heads out what am i doing wrong... ive always being told im fun and out going but cant seem to have friends that care enough...this really gets me down..

ongarboy

I think Facebook must be the worst barometer of how "popular" and "socially successful" people are and appears (from this forum alone) to cause a lot of stress and unhappiness for those who feel they are missing out on what they perceive as everyone elses non stop party lifestyle. Try not to take it too seriously. If you feel you are getting nothing out of Facebook only disappointment of other people's fun, then I would just quit it (or at least reduce your participation with it).

Try focusing on finding new friends (i know you've heard the cliches but involving yourself in new activities/hobbies/sports/exercises/volunteer work gets you out there and even if you don't make best buddies out of it, at least you are getting out there, interacting with people and focusing on new and different things rather than sitting at home mulling and dwelling.

dearg lady

don't ever feel that it's too late, at 24 I was in the same position as you, bt now I have the most amazing group of friends. The best advice I can give you is take every oppurtunity to meet people, be it joinin a class, using meetup.com, an after work drink with a colleague, even meetin up with old friends. You won't enjoy yourself all the time, but the more chances you give yourself to meet new people, the more chances of meetin some like minded people.

Overheal

Birthdays are overrated. I had mine on the 9th. You know what I did? Nothing. In fact, I worked that day. I did have a few folks at work joke about it at my prompting but thats about it. Im just not used to doing anything for my birthday. Its a summer one you know. Schools out, yadda yadds, which matters when you're growing up. I was always on vacation at that time, so I'm used to being overlooked on my birthday :P even my old man forgot, and I live with that ****er currently. But that's just how I am, and that's just how I like it: quiet and understated. And it was my 24th too! coincidence? :pac:

dr gonzo

Completely agree with Overheal, birthdays are a non event. I've done nothing on mine for years, i even did nothing on my 21st because its as irrelevant as the rest.

As regards friends though, are there any people you could see yourself hanging out with from work/college maybe OP? You never know where you'll meet interesting, friendly people. What might work as well is have a look at your friends on facebook and see which of them you get on best with and see if you can cultivate a closer relationship, maybe get to know their group of friends. It sounds like at the moment you have a lot of acquaintances but no close friends but i dont see why you cant take some of those acquaintances and make something more of them possibly...?

girlonfire

Facebook is farcical. As others have mentioned, it is not an indication of how successful/happy/popular a person is. It's a wonderful mask for many facebook users.
I do understand where you're coming from all the same and looking at things like that can intensify ones loneliness.
Is there any ways you can put yourself out there a bit more? What are you interested in? It might be worth joining a group you've an interest in and then your chance of meeting like minded people would be much better.
Good luck:)