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Unsure after hearing about death

  • 14-07-2011 03:57PM
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭


    occasional poster, and I just did a search of someone I once went out with about 4 years ago for a while and had a brief I wouldnt call it a relationship but anyway, turns out she died a few months ago in an accident.

    I dunno how to feel or what to think, as Im in work. And do I tell my current partner?

    Thanks


Comments

  • #2
    Helpyouspeak
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26 ✭Helpyouspeak


    I believe you should tell your current partner. Well it's what I'd do if I were in your shoes.. I think it must have been an awful shock for you to have found that out.Talk about it, what harm can it do?

    I also hope you're ok.


  • #3
    fataltragedy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 82 ✭✭fataltragedy


    When it comes to death, it often doesn't matter how well we knew a person, or how long ago we knew them - all that matters is that we did know them in some small way, and it hits us then that they're no longer around - and we won't ever bump into them, or reminisce about "remember ten years ago when such and such happened" etc.

    I would definitely encourage you to share this with your girlfriend - to talk it over, heck even to reminisce if you needed to. Whilst it may seem like "she was years ago, and I don't know her anymore" it wouldn't be surprising if some grief for her became apparent in you. It happens, with people we knew once upon a time.

    Hope you're okay also.


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