First time

LegacyUser

Hi guys,

Sorry to post this a a questionable topic like this but accurate information is scare on the ground so if you guys could even point me to good resources it'd be great.

I've been with my boyfriend for awhile now, but we've yet to have anal sex. It would be our first time and both of us are unsure how exactly to go about things due to fears of pain and so on. Are there any health websites or recommendations people have as to ways of reducing pain or discomfort? Or generally any how to's people would recommend?

LegacyUser

In a similar situation and would like advice on best condoms and lube to use!

oisindoyle

Nervousguy wrote: »

Hi guys,

Sorry to post this a a questionable topic like this but accurate information is scare on the ground so if you guys could even point me to good resources it'd be great.

I've been with my boyfriend for awhile now, but we've yet to have anal sex. It would be our first time and both of us are unsure how exactly to go about things due to fears of pain and so on. Are there any health websites or recommendations people have as to ways of reducing pain or discomfort? Or generally any how to's people would recommend?

Well firstly do you relly want to anal sex? Just because someone is gay doesnt mean that YOU HAVE TO have anal sex ,,,,you dont .
Of course its gonna hurt a little,but being relaxed is what its all about use plenty of lube and take it slowly ..Have a look a pantis blog about it ,,its humourous but insightful ,,,
Cant be too graphic on here as im sure the mods would put an end to the ins and outs of things ,,,as it were,,,,
if u wanna pm me feel free

Sir Ophiuchus

Basically relax, go very slowly, use lots of lubricant, and don't stress out too much if it doesn't work for ye the first couple of times.

As has been said, more information is available online, and feel free to PM away, but can't be too explicit in this forum.

LGiamani

The first time I tried it my partner was loving and gentle with me. The initmacy helped me to relax and to be at one with him. There is physical and emotional states that need to be on par with each other for it to work. If you are in anyway inhibited and he tries to penetrate it will hurt like hell I know. As another thread said anal sex is not a must in gay sexual relationships and there are other ways to have a fullfilling relationship.

Sir Ophiuchus

LGiamani wrote: »

As another thread said anal sex is not a must in gay sexual relationships and there are other ways to have a fullfilling relationship.

That being said, if it's something you both want to do practice, communication and time will make it a lot easier.

Annasopra

Oisin gives good advice

1: don't feel pressurized into having anal sex - lots of gay men don't like anal sex

2: if both of you feel ready and comfortable then try looking through pantis guide to bottoming but again as Oisin said it can be graphic

checkcheek

only thing im gonna say is make sure its the guy you want to have sex with!!

Ive just started dating a guy, and im a virgin(not too sure about him) but ill deffo make sure its the right guy, maybe not the guy your gonna spend your life with but deffo someone special

LGiamani

checkcheek wrote: »

only thing im gonna say is make sure its the guy you want to have sex with!!

Ive just started dating a guy, and im a virgin(not too sure about him) but ill deffo make sure its the right guy, maybe not the guy your gonna spend your life with but deffo someone special

Could'nt agree more with you