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What do you say/do?

  • 13-07-2011 3:08pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Soooo, what do you say to someone who has terminal Cancer that breaks down crying saying they don't want to die?


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  • #2
    Taltos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    Not much you can say really - just hold them...
    All you can do is be their rock for as long as they need you.

    Make sure though you get the help you need too...


  • #3
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    All you can do is be there for them. There are no words in response to that. All you can do is show them love and support and assure them that you are there for them every step of the way. How very sad :(


  • #4
    crotalus667
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,900 ✭✭✭crotalus667


    Advise them to go to councling there are pleanty of free scerivces for people with a terminal illness , also there are loads of books that can be recomended "on death and dying" springs to mind


  • #5
    tinkerbell
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,423 ✭✭✭tinkerbell


    I'm so sorry :( There's nothing you can say except that you tell them that you are there for them and give them a big hug.


  • #6
    miec
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 856 ✭✭✭miec


    Hi Op

    Just listen, be there for them, avoid using platitudes.


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  • #7
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    That is really awful, so sorry OP. There's nothing really you can say to someone in that situation. It can't really get any worse than that. They are probably terrified themselves, so I honestly think just being there for them is all you can do. By that I mean allowing them to talk openly about this hard stuff - being afraid of dying and all of that. Its very hard to hear, but they need the support of friends/family during this time. A lot of people run at this time so I think your being a great support already. Keep doing what your doing. Don't brush off what they have to say - no one expects you to have answers, all that's required of you is to listen and be there with them, and not to shy away from difficult conversations. Talk to people yourself about this as its really tough on you too. All the best.


  • #8
    55
    Closed Accounts Posts: 58 ✭✭55


    God awful situation wrote: »
    Soooo, what do you say to someone who has terminal Cancer that breaks down crying saying they don't want to die?
    miracles happen (gives them a lil bit of hope) - drowning attaches to a hay


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