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First time and feeling strange

  • 12-07-2011 11:02pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hi im 24 yrs old. Always considered my self straight and curious. Over last 2 months been chatting to a guy and long story short we ended up meeting on weekend and spent the day and night together. We had a great time and we didnt have full sex but did some stuff. We kissed alot and cuddled. He kept saying how much he liked me etc but after leaving him to go home i felt so wierd almost like i didnt want to be with a guy. It wasnt his performance that put me off was just a strange feeling i got in my mind and now feeling emotionally bad. I dont know what to do. I would love to have him as a friend but my whole gay experience wasnt what i thought it would be and starting to think am i just confused. Hes quite fragile and i dont wanna upset him cos we have formed a strong friendship. Ohhhh i need advice plssss.


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  • #2
    baby and crumble
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,512 ✭✭✭baby and crumble


    If you can, try forget he's a guy for a minute. If you met up with a girl and fooled around but didn't feel right afterwards, would you be having this internal discussion? Probably not, you'd chalk it up to bad chemistry or something. Your first time with a guy may or may not be great. The same sparks need to e there as with a girl.

    Perhaps you're not comfortable with a guy, so maybe you are straight. But either way, don't sweat it too much...


  • #3
    foggy_lad
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    Op You are feeling guilty and as if you have done something terrible because we are conditioned throughout our lives to believe that being gay is just wrong in every way and against every natural and man made law etc. You may end up like many gay men only able to show love for another man when you are plastered and only able to go into somewhere like the George when you have had a skinful in some straight pub first.

    The only advice that matters is to remember how being with this guy made you feel and ask yourself how badly you want to feel that way all the time:)


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    That's how I used to feel. I just couldn't accept that I was gay.
    Eventually I told my family and once that was done I didn't care who knew.
    People ask why you need to come out.. for me it was to be myself and be in a relationship if the chance was ever there.
    I'm with a guy two years now and happy as larry!
    I've never had problems with any one.. considering I'm from a small village.
    Turns out my close friend is gay and we never knew about each other. Lol
    To be honest, that helped a lot. We've always been friends and ONLY that.

    I feel for you.


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