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Break up + money issues

  • 12-07-2011 11:29am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi folks,

    Regular boardsie but going off the record for this one.

    I was with a girl for the guts of 4 years, we lived together for about 90% of that time. We bought a lot of things together. Things turned sour a few years ago when I caught her cheating, we tried to sort things out but found it hard to trust her again. She had a fling with a few different guys, one of them was a friend of a very good friend of mine. Since we broke up they have been seeing each other. When we mutually broke up, she decided to move her stuff out without telling me, she said she wanted the apartment so I let her stay there while I stayed at my friends place. She moved everything that belonged to her out and didn't tell me. This left me in a bit of a mess with the letting agency.

    We also bought a car "together" just after christmas. She gave me money to put towards it as she drove it too, the car is in my name and I put the majority towards it. There was no formal agreement, I was not to pay her share of the loan. Now that we are broke up I agreed to pay the remainder of her loan which is about 4K. That was before she turned into a bit of a psycho. She has the spare key and will not give it back to me until I have paid off her loan. The only thing I have in writing is in an email to her which is as follows; "We agreed on 4K and I will pay you, I will pay you every month up to 4K".

    What I would like to know is where I stand legally. Morally I know I should pay it, and I have had every intention to pay it until certain things came to light.

    Thanks.


Comments

  • #2
    jon1981
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,359 ✭✭✭jon1981


    She sounds like a nasty piece of work. If the loan for the car is in her name, then fill out the change of ownership form, post that and the keys to her. Then tell her good luck!


  • #3
    syklops
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18,966 ✭✭✭✭syklops


    If the car is in your name, then it is your car. Take it to a garage and get the locks changed, then pay off the 4k as normal.

    If you have not already, change the locks in the flat.


  • #4
    Vicxas
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,483 ✭✭✭✭Vicxas


    Yup change the locks on the car, an email is not legally binding so i dont think that would be evidence enough..


  • #5
    55
    Closed Accounts Posts: 58 ✭✭55


    Nothing can prove that you wrote the email to her - because simply you can claim that she has access to your email and she sent that email to herself.. on the otherhand, you still can claim that this email is not yours at all!! it takes the gov to prove it 18 months! and they never go this path unless its a major crime due to the massive costs. same story happened to a friend of mine, and ended up letting his friend (both are males and agreement was over email) paying for the legal costs and compensate his time off work!!! - such is life!

    If she goes nuts and ruin your drousy nights, play the evil game.. let her have access to the car, and let her take it! call garda, report stolen car :-) this is a legal advice from a friend who works in law firm since 30 years.. law is law.. its not her car, and she took it without your permission.. period!

    man, you are in very strong position.. and let me add.. you are a jewel for holding good manners and ethics for thinking about returning the money..


    good luck

    ps. if the car is 96+ made, then it has immobiliser, hence, changing the keys will incour 1k+ in costs, and a red flag on the VIN and it will not be sellable (considered to be stolen or damaged)


  • #6
    carlybabe1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,069 ✭✭✭carlybabe1


    +1 above, something similar happened to me except I had paid about 50 pd towards the car, but it was in his name. He came and took the car and I could do sweet FA about it cause it was in his name, he did however have to give me all my property out of the car :rolleyes:


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  • #7
    LittleBook
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,716 ✭✭✭LittleBook


    WhatdoIdo wrote: »
    The only thing I have in writing is in an email to her which is as follows; "We agreed on 4K and I will pay you, I will pay you every month up to 4K".

    You mean, the only thing she has in writing is an e-mail?
    WhatdoIdo wrote: »
    What I would like to know is where I stand legally. Morally I know I should pay it, and I have had every intention to pay it until certain things came to light.

    I'm sensing that you don't actually want to pay the 4k. Maybe she senses this too.

    Whatever about all the other stuff, you said yourself you owe her the money. By all means, change the locks on the car but you owe her the money.


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