Confused

LegacyUser

Hi

Im meeting a lovely girl the last two months,she lives about 30mins where i live, and between work and everything we are lucky if we can see each other at least once a week, I was mad about her at first but lately everything is starting to become an ordeal for her, i take her to different places everytime we meet up and we enjoy ourselves, but its me who pays for everything she has never returned the favour,i dont think she has spent a penny on me since we started dating,she never wants to stay over at my place as she says it wouldnt go down too well with her parents,She is 25 years old!!She dos'nt seem to have many friends, She seems to agree with everything i say,which can be fine but it can get real annoying after a while,and at times it can be hard enough to get a conversation out of her.When i drop her home,she never seems to look back at me and wave when i pass her,she just keeps her head down and ignores me,Im just confused right now because i dont know where i stand, she says she really likes me,but im unsure,maybe she is just extremely shy or maybe she is just using me as a free meal ticket!!!Help would be much appreicated folks

squonk

It sounds like you've only have about 8 or 9 dates so far byt he suonds of it. How about going out for a few drinks? Maybe meet half way and get a taxi each as you wouldn't want to be drinking & driving.

Beyond that it sounds like there isn't a lot of a spark here. I know her parents might be conservative or protective but if she really wanted to she could say she was staying over with one of her friends. To be honest at this stage, and given how infrequently you see each other, I'd expect you to be going at it like rabbits - if you don't mind the reference.

I'm not getting the sense that this is really going anywhere. Might be best to cut your losses at this point.

Distorted

She sounds like hard work and possibly with quite an old fashioned view of relationships - this sounds more like the way people in the 50's dated! Unless you are mad about her, do you really want to continue doing all the work?

LegacyUser

The one thing that stands out is that it's hard to get a conversation out of her....

If it has been 8 or 9 dates and she has little to talk about, it's probably not going to get better.

I'm about to split up with someone because the conversation isn't doing it for me. She's hot, great in bed and into many things that I am into but what's the point if you're just sitting staring at each other over a drink trying to think of the next thing to say or just going over things you're already spoken about.

LegacyUser

She sounds socially inept OP. It's possible she has no self awareness to understand freeloading off a man is no longer socially acceptable. It sounds to me as if it hasn't crossed her mind.

I would try to have a conversation with her. Although I can imagine her getting defensive. If she does then the writing is on the wall.

Miss Fluff

Besides mentioning she's a "lovely girl" at the start of your post, you don't actually say what you see in her. Maybe you need to have a think about it because you're mentioning an awful lot of negatives here. You need to think about why exactly it is you want to see her again.