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what should i do

  • 09-07-2011 8:48pm
    #1
    sccats
    Closed Accounts Posts: 28 ✭


    ok so its taken me ages to do this. My situation is: My best friend been seeing a guy for ages and long story short he dumped the fella but ive known him to and over last 3 months ive sorta formed a r/ship with him and now its getting heavy. Like i really like the lad and have feelings for him but every time he wants to meet up and "do" stuff i chicken out. ive explained that its hard for me and he understands but i have such an urge to be with him. Should i just suck it up or what. All advice appreciated. thanks


Comments

  • #2
    wonderfulname
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,943 ✭✭✭wonderfulname


    Talk to your friend and ask if he's okay with it.


  • #3
    sccats
    Closed Accounts Posts: 28 ✭sccats


    he prob is cos hes got a bf


  • #4
    wonderfulname
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,943 ✭✭✭wonderfulname


    Talk to him anyway, I'm assuming it's whats holding you back or did i read the OP wrong?


  • #5
    sccats
    Closed Accounts Posts: 28 ✭sccats


    no its just my first time like with a boy


  • #6
    wonderfulname
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,943 ✭✭✭wonderfulname


    Oh! You could have said :p

    Just go with the flow, meet up with him if you want, fool around if you want, go further if you want, you can always just say 'not tonight' if you feel things are moving too fast. Don't push anything, and don't take an agreement to meet up to be an agreement to go all the way, just go with what feels right for you.

    Obligatory reminder: Use a condom!


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  • #7
    Killer_banana
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,759 ✭✭✭Killer_banana


    I agree with everything wonderfulname said in regards to meeting with the guy so no point in repeating that.

    As for your friend I still think you should talk to him first. he may be perfectly fine with it but nonetheless you should probably doublecheck, you wouldn't want to mess up a friendship over this. I know personally if my friend was seeing an ex of mine, regardless of whether I was over them and my relationship status I'd want them to talk to me about it first. That's just my opinion though.


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