Trying to get the love back

LegacyUser

I was blissfully happy with my husband for six years but our life was turned upside down when we had a child with a disability almost three years. He is a wonderful and much loved little boy but he requires 24/7 care.

Two years ago my husband and I chatted about the possibility of having other children, we spoke to other parents in a similar situation, we received loads and loads of medical advice and the bottom line was there is a good chance that we could have another child with the same condition.I told my husband that I didn't think I would be strong enough to cope with having another child with a disability but he he feels very differently. At the moment we have re-mortgaged our house to pay for medical invention for our son so we are struggling financially as it is. I really love my husband, he is a wonderful father and has worked with me to provide a wonderful home, to the outside world we look to have everything but I feel completely frozen out, I'm young and very passionate but feel lonely as my husband hasn't slept with me in two years since I voiced my concerns about having more children. Please advise me how to get things back on track.

Walls

I think there are few people replying because your post reads so strangely. You give every impression of having had a short, perhaps tense, conversation with your husband where you both clearly want different things. However, your last sentence is chilling in how it depicts your relationship. He has moved out of the martial bed. This says to me that there is a lot more than just a disagreement over whether to have another child or not, but rather that there is a huge break down in your relationship. Can I ask you, what have you done to raise this with your husband?

Gilda Fortune

Walls wrote: »

I think there are few people replying because your post reads so strangely. You give every impression of having had a short, perhaps tense, conversation with your husband where you both clearly want different things. However, your last sentence is chilling in how it depicts your relationship. He has moved out of the martial bed. This says to me that there is a lot more than just a disagreement over whether to have another child or not, but rather that there is a huge break down in your relationship. Can I ask you, what have you done to raise this with your husband?

I agree with this poster. If their are rocks in your marriage bed you need to address this and now. Why on earth did he stop sleeping with you? is he witholding sex until you agree to another child? presumably you could have started taking contraception and continued a sexual relationship until you both came to a decision on children.?