Heads all over the place!!

LegacyUser

Hi never thought id ever write something on this but i really need some advice. I was with my ex boyfriend for 5 years and we broke up about 3 months ago and i took it really badly i thought we wer happy i no we did have some problems as i was a little bit controllng cus i have a lot of trust issues and insecurities i no thats no excuse but he did cheat on me a month b4 we broke up nd i forgave him and took him back very quicky he also lied 2 me a lot and i ended up finding out he was doing drugs and driving around with other girls behind my back while we wer 2gether. But the thing is that despite all that i still love him more than anything in this whole world i worshipped him but the whole reason im writting this is that he's over me compleltly all ready!!! He's even seeing sum1else and told me he wudnt care if he seen me with someone else. I just dont understand how after 5 years 2gether nd 2years on off befor that u can just wanna cut sum1 out of there life like that!!! He's my best friend in the whole world and i miss him soooooo much my heads just all over the place. I want to move on but I just feel ill never be able 2 that im not good enough 4 any1 else he put me down a lot about my weight wen we wer 2gether so i feel now ill never find sumelse. I really really thought he loved me but i just dont no anymore if he ever really did

Devon Brown

He didn't. He abused you (verbally and emotionally at least) and kept you under his thumb. He manipulated you to believe it was okay to accept the things he was doing without consequence.
Your relationship was not a good one. Please try to understand that. What you are missing right now is the feeling of being in a relationship. Not necessarily with him, just being in one. You liked the company, the sharing, having someone around. A breakup usually causes this type of reaction.
He is with someone else so quickly because he was never really with you in the first place.

To be honest, time is the only thing that is really going to help. But you can do yourself some favors and cut all ties with him. Concentrate on you. Do things you enjoy. Pamper yourself a bit. Be a little selfish, for you, because you know you deserve it. Cut all ties quickly and just try to move on with your everyday life.

Good luck.

booboo88

I agree with devon brown, when i broke up with my ex for being a **** it was the idea of having someone i missed, as he never really gave a crap about me.
but it took alot for me to take the blinkers off, for a start him telling me aload of horrible lies about his ex and saying how much he hated her, but yet meeting up with her behind my back.

i suppose wat im saying is, dont stand for someone treating you like crap, its better to be single and happy than with someone who belittles you and cheats on you.

he doesnt love anyone but himself. he's the new girls problem now

Vicxas

I agree with the 2 above me, That guy was bad news for you, so im afraid you're on the long road to recovery, Im so sorry this has happened to you. I know how bad it hurts, but it will get better. Trust me.

tallaghtmick

OP you are too good for him,soon enough you will start to get over him and hopefully find someone better.