Younger Brother possibly involved in drugs

Brendog

I honestly don't know what to do. It was my younger brothers 16th birthday recently. He got a lot of birthday money from friends and relatives. The next day we asked him what he was going to spend it on. He told us he gave friend a loan of €300.
I thought it was strange because what 16 year old NEEDS €300??

Turns out he borrowed €100 that my 12 year old brother had been saving. He lied to my parents, telling them it was for a girl.
Later I talked to him alone and he told me one of his male friends needed it. He told my parents it was a girl because he believed he would get in less trouble.He won't tell me why though. He promised his friend would pay him back in a week.

That was two weeks ago.

Now I've been told the Gardaí had been called to the friends houses for a possible drug search.

My friend(whos mother found his 16 year old sister with drugs) and I confronted the kid at his house half an hour ago. He told us he isn't selling drugs. When I said we'd get the Gards involved he immediately said, "What are the gards gonna do?" and denied knowing anything about it. After a few minutes my brother happened to pass. I asked him who he gave the money to.

He looked at his friend and said he gave it to a girl. He changed his story to back his friend up.

Can somebody please help me, or at least give me advice?

JimmyCrackCorn

A few years ago I had a concern a fiend of mine was in the early stages of developing a problem with drugs.

I introduced her to someone I knew years ago who has a massive drug problem by bringing her over for a cup of tea and a chat but more to show here where it goes and how bad it can get.

To say she got an education is an understatement, I left them alone while I made tea.

While I don't suggest you do the same maybe a chat with the Garda youth officer or local youth groups that work in this area.

300 Euro is not an unsubstantial amount but it is a sign of the very early stages of dealing. You may be just in time to nip it in the bud.


Best of luck op.

By threatening the kid with the police, you've completely burned all your options of being the cool older guy who can get the truth out or can give advice. I've no idea why you did that because the kid is right, the guards can do nothing.. Especially when you've warned him they might be coming.

Miss Fluff

You really and truly need to cool the jets here.

Now I've been told the Gardaí had been called to the friends houses for a possible drug search.

So have you proof there was a raid? How do you know this? Were there arrests?

It seems by being histrionic about all of this you are going to lose the trust of your younger brother. Steaming in with no evidence and threatening calling the cops is not the correct approach at all tbh. He's sixteen. If you'd boxed clever you may have had a better chance of finding out exactly what's going on. There's a world of difference between having a few spliffs and being a drug dealer but you'll probably never find out now what he's up to....

James400

^I agree with Miss Fluff.

You are automatically jumping to conclusions without any proof!!

What his friends get involved in has bugger all to do with him. As had been said you need to sit down and assess things on their merits because otherwise you will alienate your brother from yourself.

Think before you even consider doing anything.

Overheal

your his brother, it may go against your grain but you need to be the brother, not the hall monitor. he wont open up to the hall monitor.

phancydan

A few ways to look at this.. your brother could be giving his girlfriend money to go to England. Maybe he's being bullied and threatened or he's starting up a dealing in drugs business. The worst it could be is he has gambling or coke habit, but at 16 that's young. Threatening him with the cops was the one wrong thing you could do. You need to reassure him you'd never call the cops and try to get along with him and earn his trust.

liquoriceall

I have an older brother whos been involved with drugs from a young age I wish we had taken it more seriously and called the police in the early stages because it becomes too late very quickly he should be closely monitored by all you can not over react to the drug situation
Yes most people do drugs a few times and are fine but thats not much good if your brother is the one who gets sucked in and ends up with mental health issues etc

Eric Cartman

When i was 16 i knew a guy buying a moped , his parents wouldnt let him have one but he was putting all his money in a box and hide it to save the money , his brother thought he was on drugs and said it to his da , my mate let his family continue to think it was drugs and tiptoe around the issue until he bougjt his moped , his da was relieved but his ma went mental about the moped , she would have taken all the money off him had she known what it was for .

Basically my point is, not all 16 yea olds are entireoy stupid , everyone would love to think that the worst possible case is always the true one , realisticaopy its his money , if you catch him with drugs , then talk to him about that , for the moment leave him alone till you have any proof , till then , its his money , let him make his own mistakes

55

is there by any chance a "family standards" in your family?

if so, strict family rules apply.. change school if possible, force to pick him up to and from school everyday.. sieze on his freedom.. and bring him up to your social life and activities.. be very serious with him when it needs to be.. no shouting or physcial activities needed.. only straight forward one way talk. dont forget to fe*k all of his friends who try to contact him - be very very dangerous around them, freak them out, and threat them if needed (dont worry, such scum wont refer to garda)

in 6 months time, he will wake up from his teenage dream and will learn like cars ecu how to be straight person.

I saw this happening in asian communities and it always worked - not sure though on how much influance and "obey by the family standards" your family can make.