Bald and Young

LegacyUser

Basically I'm 19 years of age and have serious signs of baldness. Now I do realise this may be my natural hairline forming, as my dad has a similar hairline and is 30yrs older than me it is just receded that tad bit more. I have receded at the temples quite a lot and at my fringe. I know this is a sign of aging obviously and there is nothing I can do to stop. TBH I think those hairloss products are nonsense.

Now I have periods where I don't mind it but other times it is all I can think about. I do fairly well with good looking women but I'm afraid this will all go with baldness. Now I've always thought if I was balding that I was just going to shave it all off. But as the time has hit and at such a young age with such a young looking face I think this would be strange. I'd be the first bald person in my group of friends. I would not be comfortable with that.

I'm really conscious of it when I'm training with my team in the rain or in the swimming pool because it makes my hairline more obvious. A team mate even passed a remark about it today which kind of hammered home the point that it's just not me noticing it. I have quite large ears or so I think and am worried that these will look more prominent and silly if I was to shave my head. My think framed glasses hopefully will distract from this though, I think I will have to start wearing them full time.

I realise this whole post may seem vain but it is extremely important to me to get some perspective and opinions.

Will being bald at such a young age be ridiculous?
Will women view me as someone who they don't want because I have no head of hair for them to run their hands through? etc
Will my big ears look absolutely stupid with a bald head?

Thanks for all your opinions in advance.

Baaaldy.

cantdecide

I was much like you. I was also 19 when I was well on my way. It's a knock for most men to realise they're losing their hair. Especially so when you take your youth. Believe me, I know.

The first thing I'll say and it's one you will probably think is not possible. Get over it! What I really mean is that assuming you are on your way to a baldier place, work towards accepting it. You will get to a stage where you accept it so try to get their with your mental health and self esteem intact as quickly as possible. By the time I was in my early twenties, I had accepted that being bald to me was no more important than my height or eye colour.

Having said that, there's also a good chance, based on your father's situation that you are one of these people whose hairline pushes back as you cross into adulthood. That isn't the end of the world at at all. A 'widow's peek' can be the making of some men. Just look how many baldy men have gorgeous girls on their arm.

seamus

All I can really say is that you will get over it in time. We all get to the stage where we see our body turning into an "old" person and we have to deal with it. So you're a good bit younger than the norm, but you're not exceptional. You'll start noticing other guys your age developing baldness and grey hair in the next couple of years.

You will come to accept that you can't do anything about aging and just learn to deal with what's happening. I would have a fairly prominent widow's peak hairline. I've been paranoid for years that I'm going bald, and I once saw a picture of the top of my head which made me look like I was missing half of my hair, but it hasn't gotten much worse in the last five years. There was a brief period after I turned 21 where it go a lot more prominent and my girlfriend teased me about going bald, but it hasn't happened.

So you really just have to stop worrying about what may or may not happen. If your father or your brothers (or any of the males on your mothers side) are bald/ing, then it may happen. Otherwise there's a good chance that your hair density is simply "settling" at the end of puberty as testosterone levels change.

In any case, the best remedy for balding is to shave it all off. A shaven head definitely will make you look more mature than your mates, but a balding head with the "good" hair left intact makes you look ancient. The vast majority of women like (or at least don't dislike) a nice clean shaven head, so don't worry about that.

Entering your twenties is a bit of a shock because up to now your body has been getting bigger and stronger and better looking. Now you're starting to age. Welcome to getting old!
That said, you have 15-20 years before you actually start looking "old".

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I started going bald since I was about 16 - 31 now.

It was obvious it was going to happen, my parents are bald, and so are their parents, although apparently it comes from the mother's side.

Embrace it, and embrace it early. Don't waste money on potions, lotions and magic lacquers, they don't work. Don't let it affect your confidence, there is absolutely nothing you can do about it. It's like eye colour, hair colour and mickey size, you're stuck with what you got.

Any woman who rejects you because of it isn't worth the time, she's a shallow moron.

As I said, been going bald since I was 16, and never had a problem on the woman front.

John Mason

Des wrote: »

It was obvious it was going to happen, my parents are bald,

Your MA is bald :eek:

OP, unfortunately, everyone has one of those things they would like to change about themselves, its just a case of accepting it and moving on

padd b1975

BAAALDY wrote: »

Basically I'm 19 years of age and have serious signs of baldness. Now I do realise this may be my natural hairline forming, as my dad has a similar hairline and is 30yrs older than me it is just receded that tad bit more. I have receded at the temples quite a lot and at my fringe. I know this is a sign of aging obviously and there is nothing I can do to stop. TBH I think those hairloss products are nonsense.

Now I have periods where I don't mind it but other times it is all I can think about. I do fairly well with good looking women but I'm afraid this will all go with baldness. Now I've always thought if I was balding that I was just going to shave it all off. But as the time has hit and at such a young age with such a young looking face I think this would be strange. I'd be the first bald person in my group of friends. I would not be comfortable with that.

I'm really conscious of it when I'm training with my team in the rain or in the swimming pool because it makes my hairline more obvious. A team mate even passed a remark about it today which kind of hammered home the point that it's just not me noticing it. I have quite large ears or so I think and am worried that these will look more prominent and silly if I was to shave my head. My think framed glasses hopefully will distract from this though, I think I will have to start wearing them full time.

I realise this whole post may seem vain but it is extremely important to me to get some perspective and opinions.

Will being bald at such a young age be ridiculous?
Will women view me as someone who they don't want because I have no head of hair for them to run their hands through? etc
Will my big ears look absolutely stupid with a bald head?

Thanks for all your opinions in advance.

Baaaldy.

Really not something to get worried about! I started getting thin on
top in secondary school and pretty much game over by my late 20s.
My best advice if it worries you too much is to get a blade 3 all over and as it gets thinner on top go for a lower number blade until you shave your head with foam and a normal razor.
This is not as drastic as it sounds and pretty soon you will get used to and and feel with only a tiny bit of growth that its too long. Do not waste your money on potions and lotions, they do not work.
Do not try to cover it up by styling it a different way, you will only look like a moron.

Emme

If you continue to lose your hair simply shave it all off. Ask any man with a shaved head does it affect his success with women and he'll say "yes, he's fighting them off!"

Angeles

OP, it will really and heavily come down to your own confidence level on how much it will effect you.

Going bald young was absolutely devastating for me, I was fully bald at your age, I'm 8 years older now and it took a good majority of that time to accept the fact.
I really don't think its fair to just say suck it up, but the unfortunate truth is that's all you can really do.

Best advise i can give is to shave it now, muster up the courage and take the no.1 to it and stick to it.. this alone will take a few weeks to get used to, but it will help you a lot in the long run for when the remaining hair goes.
Secondly, I'd recommend buying a nice hat/cap , if its enough to effect you now, you will have down days and something as simple as a hat can give you some extra confidence when you feel down about it.

I thought aswell along the same lines of, why now? why not in 10 years time like all the actors and other bald men everywhere, it would have been so much easier to accept... try to purge this thought as best as and replace it with - this is who i am, like it or lump it!
Best of luck op

helimachoptor

Op i'm with Des, barely out of puberty and started going bald. Best thing to do get yourself a head shaver and think of the money you can save on haircuts

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helimachoptor wrote: »

Op i'm with Des

Kindly re-phrase that

wealthyman

Des wrote: »

Kindly re-phrase that

Oi take off your mod hat, your not a mod you cheeky so and so

Doogieboogie

As a woman with a penchant for bald men, here's my advice - shave it off, #1 all over, and strut my direction There is nothing hotter than a confident, sexy bald man (thank you Pandora for pics ) and once the head's shaved, you can forget about it the daily peering in the mirror to see if it's thinning. I love a bald man, (I married one) as do many other women, and as Des said, any woman who turns you down for having no hair is a shallow moron - it'd be the eqivalent of a man turning a woman down because her breasts are a little small - pathetic.

sollar

Secondly, I'd recommend buying a nice hat/cap , if its enough to effect you now, you will have down days and something as simple as a hat can give you some extra confidence when you feel down about it.

I would recommend you don't go down the cap wearing route. It can become a crutch. You can't let it damage your confidence because that is where it will affect your life. Nobody really gives a damn if your bald but if you start wearing a hat all the time or retreat into yourself or avoid chatting up women because of it then thats where the problems will come from. Its not what people think of a bald head its how you deal with it that matters.

Vicxas

My hairline is receeding, and im fighting it by keeping it long so it covers my head somewhat. but eventually ill have to shave it, both sides of my family are baldys so i accepted it long ago

It wont be so bad, just dont stress, itll fall out quicker then

LegacyUser

Thank you everyone for all your encouraging words. I'm going to shave it off and see how I like it. Most likely I'll stick with it. Thank you everyone

LegacyUser

BAAALDY wrote: »

Thank you everyone for all your encouraging words. I'm going to shave it off and see how I like it. Most likely I'll stick with it. Thank you everyone

Its the best thing to do. My boyfriend has been bald since he was 21 and does it when theres too much regrowth. He calls his baldness his calling card now.. or ahem.. his thing.

Please don't let it affect your confidence. Apparently I'm quite the catch(I've been told.. I couldn't give a feck) and my "bald" boyfriend managed to catch me so don't worry about girls or anything like that - he also had no trouble getting women before I came along. I love him all the more for his bald head.


I'm even smiling now thinking about it.

Best of luck and feck the haters!!!!!!!!

Gilda Fortune

Try not to worry some of the most attractive men I know are bald. one guy in particular went bald at about 19, and he was the sexiest guy and never short of a beautiful woman or two on his arm. he was confident. confidence is key. he had passion and hobbies like woodturning and rock climbing , and that is so attractive - not the amount of hair on his head.

trio

I have honestly never met one woman who was put off by "young baldness".

And yeah, I'm married to a baldy. He was bald when we started going out, in our twenties, and had been for some years. He used to have a long ponytail - I can safely say I wouldn't have touched him with a bargepole with the bloody ratty oul' pony tail! Yeeeuccch!

But I like a shaved head. It looks nice and clean and sleek.

And a damn sight nicer than the horrible Hair Gel Overload that most lads have. :rolleyes:

Wolfe Tone

Wouldn't worry about it mate, I'm he same age and my hair is starting to really thin at the crown, I will end up with Capt Picard style hair eventually!(I'll shave it all of though)

It sucks cause when I was younger I had pretty cool long hair.

I wouldn't go slaphead, give it a number 2/3. Keep it really short. I find that with thinning hair you dont notice as much when you do that.

LegacyUser

As a woman baldness would not in any way deter me from being attracted to someone I fancied. Im ny experience men are more bothered/worried about it than women. Self confidence is sexy no matter what you look like. A bald man that tries to hide his baldness is unnattractive, a bald man that doesnt have a problem with it is no less attractive than a m,an with a full head of hair.

Ghost Sausage

dont worry about it! baldness suits a lot of guys , one of my mates had long gorgeous curly hair and it was his thing , started going bald at 19/20 and was really insecure about it ,shaved it all off and all the women went mad for it ! just try be confident and noone will notice it! hes only 21 now and jokes about it happily cos he doesnt mind it anymore , just accepted it! when people ask where his hair is or why are you going bald he just says stuff like ah it blew away

greenprincess

What ever u do dont grow it long and try comb over. There was a lad in college who was going bald and to compensate he had a pony tail it was horrible!! Really really terrible. Take it gracefully, confidence is much hotter then hair