Why do i feel so hurt??

LegacyUser

Hi everyone.

I will keep this brief, i was out the weekend and met a guy at first i thought we were getting on well but then he kinda became really cold towards me like one minute he was kssing me the next he wouldnt even touch me i felt like he was playing games, i should have walked away but i didn't, anyway since then i feel bad i feel rejected i don't know why i even care i only met him that night. I never met a fella that did that to me before.

Maybe its my own issue, i cant take rejection, i don't have much confidence, im only out of a long term realtionship with a few months so maybe i'm just trying to get used to the dating scene again.

Any imput appreciated

Thanks

I am a friend

Ah don’t be hard on yourself OP, you are only out of a relationship and newly back on the scene… A hard neck helps on the Irish dating scene, however, in life, it’s not a bad thing, if you don’t have a hard neck so the moral of the story is - dont beat yourself up because you are a bit of a softie.…

All I would say is put it behind you, don’t beat yourself up and learn from it.. Maybe you are not cut out for snogging in clubs so don’t do it… Take all of these things at your own pace and you have a better chance of dodging the messers… Don’t worry about yer man, go out, have fun and don’t take it anyway seriously…

Mmmoments

Hi HurtGirl.
When we break up with someone our confidence takes a nose dive. We are super sensitive - even if we are the one to end it.

The chances are if you were happy in yourself you wouldn't have looked twice at this loser - (sorry everyone for being judgemental but any person who treats another like this is a loser imo )

So to answer your question you are feeling hurt imo because you are feeling so low in yourself at the moment and this small piece of affection gave you a lift which meant you had further to fall when he let you down.

Take care of yourself. Get to know yourself and like yourself again now that you are your own person and not part of a relationship and remember you are going to be fragile for a while.

You will be ok. But it will take time.

I hope this helps.

LegacyUser

Thanks so much for replying, i suppose i'm mad at myself really i dont really hook up with someone every time i'm out sometimes it happens sometimes it doesnt and i picked him that night and i feel like a fool for doing it.

I think i'll stay away from fella's for a while until i sort my head out.

Devon Brown

You are recognizing that you only just met this guy and your brain is telling you not to worry about it. Your emotions are currently in a bit of flux due to your breakup, so it is taking them a little of time to realize what your brain already has. Just give it time.

As for your issue with rejection, no body likes rejection. Just remember that every relationship eventually fails until we find the one that doesn't.

Trust in yourself and do things that you enjoy. Pamper yourself a little. Be a bit selfish. Spend some quality time with yourself. Basically enjoy being you. If you do that, others will want to enjoy being with you too.

Good luck.

- Devon

LegacyUser

Don't beat yourself up about it op.
Could be any number of reasons why he suddenly went cold towards you.
He might have just been looking for a shag or one night stand, and something you said might have made him think that he wasn't going to get it from you. It could have been something innocent you mentioned about just being out of a relationship, or you might have said nothing at all, he might have just got the vibe that 'i don't think this girl is going to come home with me' I want to find someone who will.

He might have spotted or got a txt saying that his ex or another girl who he is really into for ages was about the place and might show up, so he wanted to appear single.

He might have been cheating and suddenly developed a conscience after he kissed you.

He was attracted enough to kiss you and spend some time with you before suddenly becoming cold, so don't let it dent your confidence about your appearance or anything.
There could be endless reasons why he went cold!

I'm not saying that you did, but just incase I would suggest that you don't talk too much about your ex to guys you've just met. Again, you probably didn't even do that, I'm just throwing it out there.