Stuck in a rut

xoaudhep

I've been with my boyfriend for almost 7 months now and I've realized that our relationship has become so boring. I know that things don't always stay like they are at the start but we see each other practically every day and we always just watch a few episodes of something on the tv, eat some food, bicker over stupid things then say goodbye. I used to get so excited when I received a text from him but now I find it an effort to reply.

It sounds terrible and I really do wish it wasn't like this. Today, for example, we went to the supermarket and walked around then went home and sat there trying to think of something to do. The spark seems to be fading fast and I'd love some advice on how to stop it!

I am a friend

Its very early to be seeing each other everyday. Can you cut back on that?

Miss Fluff

xoaudhep wrote: »

I know that things don't always stay like they are at the start but we see each other practically every day

Go back to seeing each other once or twice a week. No wonder it's terminally dull if you're spending all your time together. You must have nothing to talk about if you're sitting there watching TV together :eek: At seven months in I can think of a lot of other more interesting things!

You're obviously just seeing way too much of one another. If you're not missing one another when apart then there's your answer. Maybe it really has just run its course. Being apart should give you the chance to miss and appreciate one another.

baby and crumble

I think it would be ok to see each other most days at this stage, but only if you're doing interesting things! Doing the grocery shopping and watching tv isn't exactly exciting or interesting.

It's the summer, which is a great time to go do stuff outside in the evenings, mostly for free! Go for a walk, go play frisbee in the park, go to the free galleries and museums, anything. Maybe make sure you have a night or 2 a week where you both do something for yourselves, apart.

Devon Brown

I agree. Get back to DATING each other. Running errands together is not dating. It may be part of a relationship, but if you don't have the romantic part of it (the dating and the like) then you are going to discover very quickly that things are boring.

I wouldn't give up on it yet, but definitely talk about it and try to reinvest in some romance together.

Good luck.

xoaudhep

Thanks guys, it's great to see other peoples perspectives. I think we need to cut down on seeing each other ALOT..and maybe leave the mundane tasks out of it when we do see each other!