moved in together too soon?

quxuik

Hey Everybody,

I've been with my boyfriend since March this year...but we have known each other as friends for over two years...We moved in together over a month ago...and its not going very well...Maybe we shouldnt have moved together so soon...but the situation was that he had to move from his house cos he didnt like the house and I wanted to move out from my house as well ( before we started dating I actually was looking for a place to stay on my own, like a studio apartment). Any way, we have lots in common, similar interests, we go to the same gym, we like sport, nature, businness, the same music...as friends we were going on very well...so we thought maybe its worth to give it a chance and live together to get to know each other better..

Since we moved in together...so many things changed...Its embarassing but I think its not gonna work ...and now I am stocked...cos I think I should move out, I think he is a great person and deserves someone who accept him in every way...God...maybe I am too emotional and some things annoy me...instead of making me lough...I dont know...I need to talk to him and tell him what is that really annoys me...but I am afraid I can hurt him...I'll just say that I respect him like a person but some parts of the behaviour is actually pushing me away from him...maybe we will work it out together...

Count Duckula

I think you already know what you need to do

You need to talk to him and decide where this is going. It sounds like things are going wrong but you don't want to hurt him. Perhaps he feels the same way.

You're clearly mature enough that you need to strive for good communication. If you can't sit down and discuss this then you'll have problems later on the relationship anyway.

Best of luck.

Devon Brown

It is as simple as good communication. Open, honest, non-judgmental communication. Maybe you guys did move in together too fast, but that is behind you now. You have to figure out what you need to do going forward. And you should determine that together. You are in it together, so share how you are feeling and give it a shot.

Good luck.

Vicxas

Im with my current GF since july last year and we moved in around may together, its tough at first but its starting to come together for us. Can I ask whats going wrong?

trio

The first couple of months of moving in together are often horrendous. It's all very well in theory, but it's bloody hard in practise.

Talking helps a LOT. And knowing it'll probably get better.