would love an outside opinion

celica1994

ok so heres my story..
3 odd years ago, my best friend meets a girl online, brings her home, the usual stuff.. theyre together for about 3 months, the relationship ends badly, the girl gets with my 2nd best friend out of spite, relationship lasts 2 months... one month later we fall for each other.. Drama over it all means i cant be friends with my best friends anymore so i give them the cold sholder, she drops all her friends cause she feels guilty.. sooo.. after only 2 or 3 months together we move in together, the first few months go well, then comes the arguing.. wasnt too bad for the first year... we move from a small apartment to a big house... give it about 6 months and major problems start to occur... by the time i blink another 6 months has passed and out relationship is in the toilet, we dont spend time together, constantly arguing, and altho i dont have any proof i recon she was cheating on me but id never accuse her of it due to the lack of proof, so we split up 3 months ago mutually, im left to sort out and make repairs to the house we were renting that i couldnt leave for 2 months so i could get the deposit back. we stay friends even up till now, She miraculously gains a fantastic social life, so another month or two passes and she brings up the subject of saying she like an indian bloke in her job and is thinking of asking him out on a date, i dont really give her much of a reaction and say go for it, sooo cutting a long story short.. 2 days ago her story goes from thinking about asking an indian guy in her job out on a date to being with an indian guy for a few weeks and is now pregnant with his child... I told my family but they all seem to think its a cry for atttention... Shes been known in the past as being the type of girl that crys wolf and love attention for being sick... Id like to hear an outside opinion on the whole thing so any opinion is appreciated!

Neyite

She cannot possibly know that she is pregnant if 2 days ago she was only thinking of hooking up with him. You have to wait at least 2 weeks after ovulation and possible conception. So, have we established that she is lying here? Pretty serious to be lying about.

Breakups, even when the writing is on the wall that its the right thing to do, are a form of rejection. I think this is what she is reacting to now and wants to mess with your head because hers is messed.

You know its over. Your social live will bounce back too, I am pretty sure that hers is not all its painted to be. Listen to your friends here, they seem like they are on the right track.

Ainekav

Did you not see all this coming after incidents No. 1 and No. 2 with your "best" friends???

So what if she says she's pregnant - It's not your problem.

Concentrate on making it up to the two friends you dumped for this crazy b!tch is my advice...

celica1994

neyite - sorry i might have my timeline all messed up, im just recalling from memory so youll have to excuse me, ur prob right everyones told me shes messin with my head so ur prob right

ainekav - in fairness, i made it right and made it up to my best friends, ur defo right, its not my problem nor would i ever take on responsiblity after that

Ainekav

You never said that you made up with them - you said you ditched them.

Ok well then what would you like advice on? I'm confused...

celica1994

Ainekav wrote: »

You never said that you made up with them - you said you ditched them.

Ok well then what would you like advice on? I'm confused...

no, i ditched em when we first got together out of guilt cause theyr were her ex's, after we broke up i made things right between me and my friends.. what id like advise on... well.. id like to know anyones opinion on wether anyone thinks she lying about the pregnacy or judging by her track record should i trust her when she says shes pregnant, or should i be expecting a phantom miscarrige a month or so from now, sorry to sound blunt and all but im just curious..

Ainekav

Sure you havent told us any of the vital details for anyone to be able to determine this?? Like When did you last sleep with her etc.


And If it's not your child then what do you care?!!!

Is 1994 your date of birth? If not, then you need to stop playing up to all these childish games and leave these fools be!!!

celica1994

Its not mine, we didnt sleep together for 2 months before we broke up so theres no doubt there, well i guess i still care for her as a friend, and no, 1985 was my date of birth, 1994 was the year of the car i owned about 2 years ago, a toyota celica, to what relevance that would matter in my situation i dont know, i just want an outside opinion because of course im emotinally involved!

Ainekav

Well if you were born in 1994 I would be a bit more understanding of your predicament since you might not have the maturity of an adult yet.

I can't help ya anymore - I have no idea if this girl is lying or not. I'd say she is, but I fail to see why you care if it's not your child and this lie won't affect you at all...

I'd advise you to keep well away from someone who breaks up friendships, rubs new boyfriends in their exes faces and possibly lies about being pregnant though!

Peace!!!

celica1994

cheers for the advise but its so hard to know if shes lying or not which is the big question, guess time will tell cause she cant hide it

Taltos

To be blunt - what does it matter?
Really? You are split up - and from the sounds of things that is the best way to be.

You need to put that part of your life and her behind you.
So what if it is a cry for help - so what if she actually is pregnant?

I think you need to try to move on with your life without her.

chicken fingers

Be glad youre out of there with minimal collateral damage.
Get your friends back, and move on with your life.
Go back to your friends, hat in hands and genuinely tell them how you feel and how you regret the bad stuff that has happened.

celica1994

chicken fingers wrote: »

Be glad youre out of there with minimal collateral damage.
Get your friends back, and move on with your life.
Go back to your friends, hat in hands and genuinely tell them how you feel and how you regret the bad stuff that has happened.

Ah its all patched up now with my friends, and your all right, i gotta start moving on with my life, ive been suffering very severly with depression since the breakup, luckily ive started anti depressants the last 2 weeks and they seem to be helping me to cope which is good

IrishEyes19

I dont mean to be harsh, but I would have taken the fact that she broke up in relatively a short space of time with your two friends as evidence that this girl wasnt long term, secondly have your friends even forgiven you, I always thought the dont go with friends ex's was gods rule to be honest and to ditch your best friends for a girl was a no no.

Having said that, whats done is done. This girl sounds like an attention seeker to be honest and you should just move on and let her move on too. Try and rebuild your social life again because I think that was your first big mistake ditching your friends. you do that, and the trust that was there before is gone.

celica1994

theyve seemed to have forgiven me which at least is good, being honest, the reason i started the thread was because i wasnt sure if i was being paranoid about the theory that she was cheating on me before the breakup but everyone ive talked to about it recons she was..

Stench Blossoms

At this point I don't think you should even care if she did.

Be glad your not with her anymore and don't have to deal with that drama.

koneko

Yeah, I'd say just be happy you are done with it, wash your hands and walk away.

This girl is trouble, she clearly has issues and is using men for attention. If you feed that attention and somehow end up back together with her, it's just going to end really badly for you. Just move on and forget about her. You really don't need this kind of person in your life.

celica1994

koneko wrote: »

Yeah, I'd say just be happy you are done with it, wash your hands and walk away.

This girl is trouble, she clearly has issues and is using men for attention. If you feed that attention and somehow end up back together with her, it's just going to end really badly for you. Just move on and forget about her. You really don't need this kind of person in your life.

Ur right, i keep in contact with her but personally its starting to seem like a bad idea, its really dragging me down every time we talk

LegacyUser

celica1994 wrote: »

i keep in contact with her

Tbh, I don't know why you keep in contact with her. She is very clearly a drama queen. I'm sure it does genuinely happen that a women might be with a guy but find herself more compatible to one of his friends and want to break up with her boyfriend to be with the friend. But for this to happen twice? In a row? That seems much less "genuine" and much more "cry for attention"

What is the reason for you still caring about what this woman does? I really think you should cut your losses. The situation is: Your ex is pregnant and you know it's not yours. So that's none of your concern. Of course, she may be lying about being pregnant and then the issue is: Your ex is retending to be pregnant for some reason. That is still none of your concern. If I were you I'd wave "Goodbye and good luck" to this girl and put her behind me forever.

JonathanAnon

Do you have any idea how lucky you are that you are NOT the one tied to her for life.. ?? She sounds like nothing but trouble.. I would keep contact to an absolute minimum with her.. And hopefully she will just move on to her next host..

celica1994

DitchTheB@*&h wrote: »

Tbh, I don't know why you keep in contact with her. She is very clearly a drama queen..

Being honest thats a tough one to answer myself, dunno if its cause i miss her or feel bad for her if her story is true, honestly i dunno, but im just finding more and more lately that i dont wana be around her, im suffering with very severe depression the last few months which is only now starting to ease of with the help of medication thank god, i guess well just losse contact over time..