tipping?

feest

Hoping for some guidance here--with our wedding in just a few weeks which vendors should I anticipate will be expecting a tip? I'm from the US where you tip everyone that touches you. While I don't want to leave anyone out, I also have to be careful of my costs. Specifically some of these vendors include:

• photographer
• band
• wait staff/bartenders
• wedding coordinator at our hotel
• hair/makeup/nail stylists

Or is it just as simple as tipping (or not) as a reflection of your satisfaction with their work? Is not leaving a tip for any of the above considered rude, regardless of their service?

Thanks for any help!

NinjaTruncs

Tipping is getting out of hand in Ireland, of your list above none should be tipped, they have prices agreed which cover their cost and given them profit so that should do them.

If you're having a Church wedding perhaps tip the alter servers and sacristan, but other than that i didn't tip anyone at our wedding.

Riskymove

NinjaTruncs wrote: »

Tipping is getting out of hand in Ireland, of your list above none should be tipped, they have prices agreed which cover their cost and given them profit so that should do them.

I'd generally agree

although the Hotel wedding co-ordinator is an interesting one. I presume this person is provided by the hotel and not paid directly by you?

depending on how involved and how happy you are with the service a tip or perhaps a token gift, might be in order

Zaph

I would assume that, like ours is, the wedding co-ordinator is a member of the hotel staff, and therefore their services are included in the price. I certainly have no intention of tipping her when the day comes. The only ones that I would be inclined to tip are the waiting staff, the rest have already charged for their services.

feest

Thanks for the quick replies!

Yes, the wedding coordinator is provided by the hotel, and her service leaves lots of room for improvement. Of my list she is the one I would really have a problem with tipping, convention or not.

mikemac

The alter boys and girls are locals from the parish so you might give them a fiver or tenner each if you wish.
Box of chocolates for the choir.
That's about it

If you want to tip the waiting staff then cash in hand. If you give money to management and tell them to split it hah, the waiting staff will never ever see that money

Ballyman

NinjaTruncs wrote: »

Of your list above none should be tipped, they have prices agreed which cover their cost and given them profit so that should do them.

I'd agree with this. I'm a photographer and have never been tipped and wouldn't expect one either. I do get fed normally on the day if I'm staying on after the meal and thats more than enough as I'm already being paid to do a job.

The only people I could possible think of being tipped are the alter servers, priest and sacristan if you are going down the church route as they aren't "officially" paid but do accept tips/donations whereas everyone else is being paid.

City boy turned country

As some others have already said, the only people that I will tipping will be:

Altar servers,
priest and sacristan
Waiting staff at reception (this will be as and when I pay for drinks)

All the others are being paid for their services and while a tip is nice, they are being paid for what they are providing.

Sarah Bear

id tip the hairdresser/beautitians too

Heineken Helen

I didn't tip anybody and nobody expected one either call me mean but it's something we have to rid from our culture. Everyone is paid a proper wage and as it is they're lucky to have a job at the mo. If you want to tip, it will be more than welcome and you will not offend anyone but just make their day. You won't offend anyone by not tipping.

kandr10

I was worried about this too.

I have kinda agreed a price with a hairdresser. She seems to be giving herself a bit of wiggle room in case some of the hair takes longer. I never tipped a hairdresser in my life and wasn't about to start now. She works for herself so whatever profit she makes goes only to her...am I being mean?

smelltheglove

NinjaTruncs wrote: »

Tipping is getting out of hand in Ireland, of your list above none should be tipped, they have prices agreed which cover their cost and given them profit so that should do them.

If you're having a Church wedding perhaps tip the alter servers and sacristan, but other than that i didn't tip anyone at our wedding.

Completely agree with this. I have covered around 50 odd weddings and only been tipped twice, at that I felt fairly uncomfortable with the tip so threw in a freebie on topafterwards in return. It is not expected and generally not the done thing.

If you are getting married in a church you are expected to 'donate' to all involved, priest, sacristan and altar boys.

beagle001

Tip the waitress/waiter if they are good as it is a nitemare to work a wedding for these guys and they rarely get any thanks.
As a previous poster said give it cash in hand as management will never share it.