Work problem! need suggestions please

LegacyUser

Hey guys, I'm a reg going un-reg for this one. I was gonna put it in the work problems section but I think as it's more to do with the stress and stuff, I'd be better off putting it here.

I have to keep this as undetailed as possible, but here goes.

A person I work with has been violent with me before. Nothing major, but enough that I felt the need to make a complaint about them. I didn't make an official complaint but I spoke to my manager and it was sorted out.

Over the months since then, this person has been hot and cold. Some days they are lovely, other days they are rude as hell. I've tolerated it so far but it got really out of hand today. This person has gone so far as to insult my mental health in a public place and told me to quit my job because I need to grow up and that my head isn't right for working. Just last week this person told me to shut the **** up because I was giving them a headache.

Today, I was waiting for the person to get my order together, as is their job. I said "I've been waiting X minutes," because it should have taken less time and my customer was asking me where their stuff was. My colleague started to shout at me, but another colleague cut across them and told them to row after work and for now you're in work and act like it.

My colleague then started crying and I got called into the back and told that I shouldn't have said "I've been waiting X amount of time" but I pointed out that the customer wanted me to check and there was no other way for me to do so. That was the end of it, or so I thought.

About a half hour later, I was getting another order together, and a colleague was standing behind me. The colleague that I am having issues with wanted to get by and instead of saying sorry or excuse me, they PUSHED me out of their way. Now, I am currently on restricted duties due to a back injury I received in work, which this colleague knows and I could easily have fallen and done my back even more damage. This all became too much for me and when I finished my shift I told my mother that I'm thinking of just handing in my notice as I can't take it anymore, frankly I'm afraid of this person and their ever-changing attitude.

My mother told me that instead of leaving, I should put in a written complaint and then if I decide to leave later, that's fine but at least I'd have stood my ground.

Thing is, I have mental health issues and am basically not coping because of other stress related to my injury. I'm genuinely worried that I may have a breakdown, as my mental health issue has been getting worse and worse over the last few months (I've had my medication increased and stuff also, so I am trying to get it under control). SO, my question is, should I go ahead with the complaint and the drama and stress it will cause, or should I just quit and basically be completely broke to save myself the stress?

I really don't know what to do. The thing is, in my job, complaints are never taken seriously and I KNOW that although they will have to take this seriously, I will be left feeling like I am to blame. I can't say how I know this because I want to keep this as anon as possible, but I will be coming out of it feeling worse.

Can you please advise me on what you think I should do, just quit or take this further by making the complaint?

Thanks for reading, I know this is stupidly long.

greengirl31

Hi OP

That's a terrible situation to be in and its awful when you have someone like that in work who thinks it's OK to treat other people in that way - And then when you ask a simple relevant question they run off crying !!!!! WTF.

I'm not sure what sort of organisation you are working in but if they have a HR manager I'd speak to them. Explain what's happened and tell them that over the last few months you've felt victimised and bullied by this person. I'd wouldn't bring your mental health into it at this stage but I would say how your work situation is having a negative effect on your wellbeing and your home life. See what sort of reaction that gets but continue in your role as it is now. If there is no significant improvement, go to your doctor and get a cert to sign you off stating stress as the reason.

I will also add that while there may be an improvement in the situation if you get HR involved, if the 2 of you have to continue to work together there will always be an air of tension. Is there any chance either of you could be moved to another section or branch?? That might solve all your problems.

Wompa1

To be honest with you OP I think I've seen another post of yours and it just sounds like you don't like your job. This person is being melodramatic but maybe your tone and manner at work is hostile due to you hating the place? You may not notice you are conveying in this way?

That's just assuming the other post is linked and it sounds like it is. I think you need to take some time off and recharge yourself. Don't focus on getting your back better this time, focus on what you want out of life...

tinkerbell

Go straight to HR - that colleague of yours should NOT be allowed get away with it. Report it.