Is ignorance bliss?

LegacyUser

College student here, only a wee young lad.
Was going steady with a girl during my leaving cert year, well I wouldn't say steady, it was rocky from the start. She comes from a troubled family, the parents basically hate each other. Add her insecurities from that to an over controlling mother and general lack of social contact outside of school... fun times :S she had a few breakdowns while we were together.

Anyway, to the issue at hand.
We've kept in touch, and get on well and all that. Actually went on a couple of dates and what not during the year. Never kicked off again though, due to academic commitments on both our parts. Fair enough right? Problem is, I found out in October (I won't say how, but it was purely by chance) that her father (who is still married) has a girlfriend, who he had gotten preggers. Bad times. What's more, October was 9 months ago and not a word has been said to the rest of the family - he's trying to keep the child, who has obviously now been born, a secret.

This girl is quite fragile at the best of times when it comes to her parents. While she seems to have accepted that their marriage is all but over, I'm not sure if I should tell her about this for fear of a bad reaction; she once attempted suicide in her past before I met her. The way she tried it, it was no mere cry for attention either.

I know that I'd want to know about this if I was her. But I'm not and I can't put myself in her shoes because her situation is so complicated and horrible. I still feel guilty about not saying anything for so long though!

So what do I do?
Do I tell her, and risk causing her another meltdown, but at least then she'll know the truth, or do I keep my gob shut, and leave the hood pulled over her eyes?

I'm a great believer in justice and bringing out the truth, but it's hard when the truth will hurt someone... *sadface*

John Mason

Do not tell her.

this is none of your business and no one will thank you

shinikins

I agree, its none of your business. Besides, what do you have to tell? That you heard on the grapevine several months ago that his girlfriend was pregnant. You don't know anything after that. She may have miscarried, or had a termination, or may not have been pregnant at all. You've said yourself that your ex is fragile, bringing this down on her head will not help.