How to dropout of a friendship??

LegacyUser

i made friends with these two girls about two years ago and the three of us text and chatted everyday, etc etc did all the friendly things

but now i am just getting sick of one of the girls. she alienated me during the college term when she got a boyfriend, she tries to be all funny picking on me when in a group of people and then tries to be all friendly again when were on our own. she get so drunk about twice a week and just act like a total idiot and makes a fool of herself and we have to look after her. since i lived near her she constantly was in my house, she is very nosy and is always trying to be in my business. she writes to me every time i go on facebook, constantly posts stuff on my wall etc etc. she is the type of person that can give you a sneering but cannot take one without being very insulting.

anyway she becoming a pain in the ass and i think id be better off not dealing with her anymore.

the trouble is even if i dont interact with her on facebook and dont answer her texts every time, she still is going to think were as we always were. we have the same college friends and we live close together so it will be difficult

Needler

Just 'go quiet' on her, tell her you're busy when she wants to do stuff. Or better yet, tell it to her she'll get such a fright that someone is standing up to her that she won't want to come near you again

Fentdog84

Going quiet on her is the long way round it, if anything you'll probably draw her on you more because she'll be wondering what your problem is.
Best just do it the upfront way and tell her, the same way as if you were breaking up with a guy. Is she going to be happy about it? No. But you wont really care anyway as she'll be gone out of your life. All you seem to be getting out of this friendship is guilt trips and feeling like dirt. You dont need that friends who make you feel like that.

LegacyUser

be careful who you cut out of your life cos once they're gone- they are gone. and, especially if you have mutual friends, you will continue to cross paths and nothing puts a downer on an occasion like trying to avoid an old friend- not just between you too, but all the people there as well.

even if she accepts being cut out, what makes you think your mutual friends will be ok with you treating her that way?

best advice i can give is say straight up to her: i dont like it when you get demented and we all have to mind you; when you speak to me like that, its insulting.

im not saying never put her out of your life- in fairness i dont know rhis person, what im saying is cutting someone is an extreme option and it might be worth your while trying a more direct approach first. that way if you do eventually cut her, you can justify that you did in fact try.....

LegacyUser

Op,i think you should nip it in the bud,if this person still posts on your fb wall,maybe drop a small message telling how you feel,start off with a small reminder of a past instance that was upsetting you,telling how you felt at that moment,maybe the person might see the errors of their ways and start cop on to themselves.

i think if she lives near,maybe slowly start coming up with excuses or not letting her inside your house,eventually getting the hint.

If do see her everyday,put up with it,until can get some other place sorted.