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Would I know if I was gay?

  • 26-06-2011 1:11pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    For years I have had this really uncomfortable issue with my sexuality. I am a male and am only attracted to women. However I was always slagged and called gay growing up. Because of this I have this huge issue about being gay, when anyone even mentions the word I think everyone thinks I am gay. I am not attracted to men but now am wondering if I am so hugely in denial or something and don't realise it. It's very hard to explain, almost like I heard it so much as a child I'm now convicning myself I must be gay. Aswell as the fact that I have had only a few relationships. I'm not sure how to get passed this. I suppose it's like the fat kid who is always slagged and called fat, it stays with them into their adulthood. Would I know it if I was gay?


Comments

  • #2
    Chinafoot
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,894 ✭✭✭Chinafoot


    howtogetopassedthis wrote: »
    I am a male and am only attracted to women.

    You're not gay.

    If the bullying has affected you to this extent would you maybe consider some counselling? It could really help you to move past this.


  • #3
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 3,505 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Sexuality is a natural preference. You've clearly stated a preference for women, and are therefore straight.

    Maybe if you're not too uncomfortable about it, you could talk to a friend? I think you just need some validation and reassurance that no one's judging you. As Chinafoot said, counselling could be another option.


  • #4
    Vicxas
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,449 ✭✭✭✭Vicxas


    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Purely_Obsessional_OCD

    This link may explain your thinking more clearly


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Op

    Let me tell you the biggest Queen I know is a Body Building/ kick boxing champion Hetro who has 3 kids. He was constantly slagged as a kid but knew he was only into women. My 3 brothers would never have been classed as gay in their youth not having showed any of the signs that Bullies jump on.
    you know you are only attracted to women thats enough


  • #6
    Elle Collins
    Closed Accounts Posts: 681 ✭✭✭Elle Collins


    You're clearly not gay OP if you're only attracted to women. Try to let this go and if you find you cannot do that alone consider getting some professional help. There's no shame in it. These are the lingering psychological effects of bullying and a lot of people need help with that.


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