how to stay strong?

LegacyUser

hi, i posted here a few weeks ago about my 'relationship' of two years being over, got great responses, thks.

i now need advice on how to stay strong! im getting texts from him, lots of them. he misses me, misses seeing, chatting etc.
only thing is this is the same thing that always happens. in the past i have answered him, and we fell back into seeing each other again.

i cant do that this time! i know its better this way, but because im so soft when it comes to him, i find myself thinking 'is he ok' i hope he is not upset, etc etc.

i blocked his no. on my mobile, he cant ring, unfortunatley it still allows txts to come through.

i need to stay strong here and just not reply.
dont know what im looking for really, just some reassurance probably that im doing the right thing, and how do i stop feeling sorry for him????!!!

Taltos

Well seems like he knows how to push your buttons.

Afraid these texts may never stop OP - have you spoken to your service provider?
Failing that you then should really change your number - not nice I know - but what option do you have? Keep receiving these until on a weak moment you respond - he pops around and a few months later you are back to this again?

Eventually he will get bored and stop - but unless you take action nothing will stop those late night drunken texts hoping for a booty call.

In terms of feeling sorry for him - just keep reminding yourself why you broke up.

However - all of the above is stopping you moving on. How are you meant to emotionally move past this if everytime you get a text you are wondering if it is him again...

I am a friend

anon op wrote: »

how do i stop feeling sorry for him????!!!

I think I remember your post and this has been happening on and off for a long time.

Look, you are not doing yourself any favours by even thinking about jumping onto this carousel again.... Dont reply to him, dont meet him, dont get back with him and dont feel sorry for him cos he is playing you like a violin....

Move on and upwards

LegacyUser

yea, your right!!

i havent and i wont reply.
he will eventually get sick of it i guess, i will probably be the worst in the world then but sure i wont let that bother me!

just a weak moment today i guess.
im sure he never sat at home worried about me when i was upset because of him.

just needed that push lads! thks

Taltos

aono op wrote: »

just a weak moment today i guess.
im sure he never sat at home worried about me when i was upset because of him.

just needed that push lads! thks

Chances are he has been out on the lash and after the 4th or 5th knockback has felt sorry for himself and called you...
At least that is what you need to keep telling yourself.

Seriously change that number - he may never get the hint...

Miss Fluff

Talk to your service provider. Texts shouldn't be coming through if you had the number blocked. Stay strong, if you reply to him you're going to set yourself back, you're doing great. With each day that passes you'll get that little bit stronger.

I am a friend

aono op wrote: »

he never sat at home worried about me when i was upset because of him.

Exactly!!! You have nothing to gain by entertaining him ...