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Invited to full wedding only going to afters

  • 24-06-2011 10:15am
    #1
    AshAdele
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 108 ✭✭


    hi all,

    im hoping someone can help me, i have been invited to a family members wedding but due to work comentments adn lack of holidays (mid week wedding) i cannot attend the full wedding, I can definetly make the afters.

    my question is do i give a present?
    i normally give cash enough to cover the meal and a little extra if invited to the full wedding but dont give anything if only invited to the afters.

    should i still give the full amount or just a precentage of it?

    thanks in advance


Comments

  • #2
    Mr. Presentable
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,496 ✭✭✭Mr. Presentable


    There is no protocol. Give whatever you feel is appropriate, not what some randomer on the internet suggests - after all, they know neither you nor your friend, nor, for that matter, your relationship with said friend


  • #3
    TheChevron
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,065 ✭✭✭TheChevron


    Give half/ Spend half of what you would have for the whole thing.

    Good compromise?


  • #4
    rainbowtrout
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,397 ✭✭✭✭rainbowtrout


    Well if you had been able to attend the full wedding would you have given a present? Because it sounds like you have been invited to the full thing and just can't make it rather than just being invited to the afters which is a different thing.


    Surely giving a present is about wanting to give a present to your friend and not about covering the cost of a meal? If your best friend was getting married and you were due to attend and on the day you broke your leg and didn't make it, would you hold back on giving her a present because you didn't get a meal out of it?


  • #5
    AshAdele
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 108 ✭✭AshAdele


    rainbowtrout wrote: »
    Well if you had been able to attend the full wedding would you have given a present? Because it sounds like you have been invited to the full thing and just can't make it rather than just being invited to the afters which is a different thing.


    Surely giving a present is about wanting to give a present to your friend and not about covering the cost of a meal? If your best friend was getting married and you were due to attend and on the day you broke your leg and didn't make it, would you hold back on giving her a present because you didn't get a meal out of it?

    thanks i think your right, i think because im giving money and not a actual present that i have been looking at it wrong:)


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