Dear Dad, Love Maria

Links234

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8EA20558xyk

apache

hi links.

i know i should be in bed
but i just watched that little film and had to comment. it really struck a chord with me and puts everything into perspective.

no matter how hard we think it may be for coming out gay i think it is a whole lot rougher for trans people.

your mam has a lot to deal with. don't forget you have gone through these things emotionally for a long time and its all relatively new to her - a year?

you were her son and now you are her daughter. its a lot to take in. it must be so scary for her and sometimes peoples defense mechanism hurts us.
it dosen't mean she loves you any less - she is just scared. i'm sure she is worried for you and how your life is that bit harder than anybody elses at this present time. she is worried for you.

and heres me banging on about sexual fluidity! i do feel strongly about it but in the grand scheme of things it does not matter. as long as people are happy - that is all that matters.

there is one thing though - i think your mam may be a small bit right re the the internet. she is coming from one angle. people here are coming from another. i think you should find a happy medium

your story and especially this vid did touch me. i think i will be a whole lot tolerant. it made me think. thank you x

i might even be bodice rippers friend!

Links234

Lovely Dyke wrote: »

no matter how hard we think it may be for coming out gay i think it is a whole lot rougher for trans people.

I don't know, I've known of plenty of gay people who've had things rougher and trans people who haven't. dunno if there's any point in saying who's got it harder or not, because we'll all in the same boat at the end of the day.

apache

hmmmm you're welcome.

we all sail in different boats in different seas. a few of us catch the same boat but there are a lot of different boats out there.

Meesared

Heh seen this a few days ago, hard hitting stuff...

Chuchoter

That was a really touching video.

Killer_banana

Truly touching and beautiful.

Platinum2010

crayolastereo wrote: »

That was a really touching video.

+1

Animord

apache wrote: »

we all sail in different boats in different seas. a few of us catch the same boat but there are a lot of different boats out there.

D'you know, I don't think we do (though I understand what you mean) but really its just one big boat - we are born, we live and we die.

I am horrified at how little compassion we have for each other (I am as guilty of this as the next person and am refering to Links234's original post now, not you Apache!)

I saw a Ted clip the other day of a guy who was on the flight that crashed into the Hudson and although I cringed a bit a the emotion of it, the sentiment is so right, life is so short and quite often so rubbish we really need to focus on what is important, to him it was his children's happiness and I bet if your (Link234's) mother was in the same situation that she would feel the same, but unfortunately we are all products of what we have been taught and clearly we can't crash everyone into rivers;), but I really just don't understand why we can't just be nicer to each other.

http://blog.ted.com/2011/04/22/3-things-i-learned-while-my-plane-crashed-ric-elias-on-ted-com/

apache

that is cool animord.

i think there are many boats - not just one big boat.

Thomasf

I really liked this video, it just shows that family and friend can be cruel is not accepting who people are, be it CD/TV/Gay or Transgender. People and the world has got to become more accepting of others so that it is a better place for all to live.