Where's the care and love Gone?

LegacyUser

Well, tonight, after 3 years, my first relationship as good as came to an end. We've been together since 16 and I'm now 19. It's been very rocky the past few weeks and to cut a long story short I don't think I care about her as much as I did. And I have absolutely no idea why. When tonight we were discussing breaking up, I felt barely anything, I felt mean to her as I could see how upset she was, but I wasn't very upset. I just don't get why. I cared about her a lot and loved her loads and the past few months I felt we were growing apart. But tonight, I didn't cry, didn't even come close to it, and I just don't know why. I know I'll miss her but it obviously wasn't working for me if I amn't that devastated.

Am I right or am I just horrible?

LegacyUser

And now,

The past hour I've been sitting here thinking about how I'm going to miss her and can feel myself feeling sad inside. What's going on with me?

squonk

I think you just know it's time to move on. You've grown out of the relationship and that's not a reflection on you really, it's just that it is no longer what you want. You did the decent thing and broke it off.

Now you're grieving a bit. Someone you were that close to who won't be around for the foreseeable future will take some adjustment to come to terms with. You're sad because change has happened and it's all new from here on in. Give it a few days and it sounds like you'll be fine.

rainbowtrout

No, what you've done and felt is perfectly reasonable. The relationship had run it's course and you did the decent thing by calling time on it rather than letting it drag on and get messy and perhaps having a break up that wasn't perhaps as amicable.

You were with them for three years, that's a big part of your life so you are going to miss them but you will adjust.

LegacyUser

Thank you for the replies.

It feels hard at the minute, in one minute I think I'm making the right decision as it hasn't been the best the past few months, then on the other I think about how much she means to me and how I'll miss being around her. Relationships are tough, think a few years of being free will do me good!

Thanks.

Mc Kenzie

you were only young in the first place you change alot during that time and you will from now till your 20s...

You prob will miss her cos youv become used to her around the hole time.

Now your afree agent. your young make the most of it go and enjoy yourself:)