Do you regret not making a move on somone you have a crush on?

effluent

Hi all

I know this is bit of a personal question but I'd like to hear something from people in asimilar position to me. When you were in you teens early twenties did you have a crush on someone and did you make the effort to get to know them properly?

You see recently it really has hit home to me how I've wasted a lot of opportunities in my life and that I won't get these opportunities again. I've liked this girl for a long time now but the thing is that I haven't even had a proper conversation with her. It has been playing on my mind recently how I should have made more of an effort to get to know her or other girls I might like. I'm at a cross roads in life at the moment, most of which lead me to leaving my home town, starting a new life so to speak. I'm beginning to woder if I'll regret not making an effort to get to know this girl further in my life, even if I were to settle down with someone.

So is this something that you move on from, or is it another attidition to the list of regrets in life?

Links234

yes, there's definitely someone

but you know what? life's too short for regrets, learn from your mistakes and move on. you'll miss what's in front of you if you keep looking back

swimming_paul

Yes, numerous girls from school and college when I think back. Dunno whether they feel the same, but life goes on i figure.

Mickeroo

Usually if I find a girl attractive I try to get to know her, the downside of this is that you enter the friend zone fairly rapid. Moral of the story: Don't get to know her, just ask her out.

Cill Dara Abu

Nope:D

orourkeda

I've made moves that I regret too.

Elmidena

No, I pretty much followed up whenever I was interested in someone....though the biggest crush did take me the best part of six years!

guitarzero

nearly every week i see a girl and think i shoulda just looked foolish instead of looking back

Saila

Links234 wrote: »

you'll miss what's in front of you if you keep looking back

thats the best one Ive heard for a long time

Yakult

Yep, had a crush on this one girl for like 3 years, I had my moments to make a move but always thought "nahh she wont have any of it". She was stunning, always had me laughing and was one of the nicest girls I've ever met and know.
A year ago I then found out that she was actually interested in me but my hesitancy fcuked it all up.

Ahh well.
:pac:

effluent

Sunshine! wrote: »

No, I pretty much followed up whenever I was interested in someone....though the biggest crush did take me the best part of six years!

This the same amount of time I've know this person. Maybe it's an omen:D

Kojak

Sunshine! wrote: »

No, I pretty much followed up whenever I was interested in someone.

I thought for a second that you had posted "...Followed them whenever..."

It looked like you might have been a stalker, but I see I was wrong.

Redlion

I went a step further and didn't make a move on a girl I was a sure bet with...Ignored her for a few months as well...Now regret it all the time.

God, I'm an idiot! Ha

Professey Chin

Repeatedly. Although i am an expert at finding the friend zone or just generally fcuking everything up somehow

Elmidena

effluent wrote: »

This the same amount of time I've know this person. Maybe it's an omen:D

Roll the die; worst case scenario you look stupid for wanting to make someone happy, and is that really the worst crime? Just don't go boiling their pets or anything though :pac:

And I had to rephrase to avoid the stalker sound, but hey, stalking's cool. Gives you dedication points and then people give you a card and take your photie =D

mikedone

Really really liked a girl the whole of my first year in college but never made a move until our last night. She asked me why I hadn't asked her out before as she had fancied me for months but thought I wasn't interested. That was over twenty years and a divorce ago and I still think of her sometimes :rolleyes:

Davidius

No. I've looked at the most likely outcomes through predictive modelling and found the outcomes that didn't involve her slapping me formed an empty set.

Cupcake_Crisis

The prospect of making the first move is terrifying. I couldn't do it. Never could.. Ive probably missed many a good trinity because of that...

effluent

I think the worst part is knowing that she might like you too. you never will know how happy you could have been with her:(

If you are certain that she/he doesn't like you, well that thats:pac:

Saila

Ill be bumping this thread in a couple of years to say....yes
worse thing is I know I should, but I wont :rolleyes:

ontheditch2

Had for a long time, but decided not to go through life with anymore regrets. Only said it to one girl, who i kinda fancied for a while, said it drunkenly, so tried for a whole night to persuade her, the next day she gave in. Didn't work out as planned, but at least no regrets about her..

orourkeda

we regret making moves sometimes when the beer wears off

Fremen

Davidius wrote: »

No. I've looked at the most likely outcomes through predictive modelling and found the outcomes that didn't involve her slapping me formed an empty set.

*ahem* P-null set?


On topic, I've failed to make a move before when it was a sure thing. I was an awkward teenager at the time and just didn't have the balls. Big regret.

In the long run, it's much less painful to give it a go and maybe get shot down. It's surprising how little getting shot down by someone you like hurts sometimes - I've walked away from it with a feeling of "Meh, I tried" before.

Edit:

Saila wrote: »

Ill be bumping this thread in a couple of years to say....yes
worse thing is I know I should, but I wont :rolleyes:

Just wondering how many posters checked to see if Salia's of the opposite sex and if (s)he's talking about them. I almost did until I realised how ridiculous it was.

entropi

I dont have regrets anymore, used to...but looking to the future, living in the now and all that positivity stuff has worked so far.

Overheal

I've regretted the opposite too. Works both ways. In both cases though it's normally the result of overthinking things.

Tubsandtiles

Yes

there was someone i had a crush on for a long time, and found out years later they'd had one too and i shoulda said something !
no regrets at all though - happy at the moment

cyrusdvirus

Cill Dara Abu wrote: »

Nope:D

Cheeky git!

stupidusername

bluewolf wrote: »

there was someone i had a crush on for a long time, and found out years later they'd had one too and i shoulda said something !
no regrets at all though - happy at the moment

Oh you,you have me so curious ...

About the friendzone thing,i dont really think girls put guys in the zone when they get to know them,basically if you fancy someone you tend to fancy them from the start.or well at least it's the way it works for me.so there really isn't a time limit on making a move with a girl in terms of being friends or going out with them.

Naikon

Screw regrets.

cyrusdvirus

stupidusername wrote: »

About the friendzone thing,i dont really think girls put guys in the zone when they get to know them,basically if you fancy someone you tend to fancy them from the start.or well at least it's the way it works for me.so there really isn't a time limit on making a move with a girl in terms of being friends or going out with them.

STOP

STOP NOW

The friendzone thing is our only solace and refuge when we realise that actually that girl who has been hanging around with the same group actually looks quite fine!

We already know full well that if she felt anything towards us that word would have gotten out, but allow us that one little white lie please!!!

Young_gunner

Cill Dara Abu wrote: »

Nope:D

you boll1x !

VampiricPadraig

Yup. Was friends with a girl for a LONG time and then when I made a move....She didn't want to talk to me for a very long time. We still haven't spoken!

Scanlas The 2nd

guitarzero wrote: »

nearly every week i see a girl and think i shoulda just looked foolish instead of looking back

How is it foolish to ask someone out though, surely it's foolish not to ask people out as we're all going to be dead forever within 100 hundred years and none if this will matter or be remembered. Do you look at people asking others out and think "what a fool". Is it foolish to go for interviews as well?

kippy

AH, this hasn't been said already?
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