Can't seem to get over him, please help!

LegacyUser

I was ‘unofficially’ seeing a guy for a few months last summer, but he decided to end things as we were heading to different universities. It really really hurt him that he had to do it but he thought it was for the best, he thought the distance just wouldn’t work. It really hit me hard at the time as I had fallen for him badly.

Anyways, its been eight months since this all happened, Ive met other guys, a few have fallen for me, but I still always compare everything to what I had with him. I haven’t felt the same way about anyone else. We met in person, I think three times since then, and its always been somewhat ‘awkward’ as we could both sense I think we still had feelings for each other.

Its summer now, and as we’re both home from college I see him out every Saturday night when we go clubbing. Ive seen him kiss two girls, but I don’t feel that bad, because its his life and is free to do what he wants. We’ve had a brief conversation, and again, somewhat ‘awkward’. I met an old friend of mine that I had seen once or twice before and I ended up being with him when out last night. But why do I feel so bad? By seeing guys in front of him I feel like Im letting go of a past I don’t want to let go of (and I know thats the right thing to do). I think I just, don’t want to rule out the possibility that we could be together again. But it absolutely kills me when I see him out, I still have feelings for him and I cant help but notice him. What do I do? Do I tell him? Talk to him? Just ignore it and carry on smothering these feelings Ive continued to have and live with the pain? Its eating me up inside and I feel so annoyed with myself. Its pathetic.

James400

I hope i'm not upsetting you here but i seriously think you should move on.

If he genuinely wanted to get back with you he most certainly would have done it by now. You've seen him kissing other girls while out so it seems to me that he is a lost cause as far as you're concerned. Also, the arkwardness that you say happens between you both when you meet him only copperfastens this.

As regards seeing him most weekends there's nothing that can be really done about this but all you can be is polite if you do encounter him.

Seems to me that you need to meet a guy who loves you for you.

Believe me it's hard for people to move on etc, but why waste your life away wondering about what this guy happens to be doing be it, this that and the other? Some people can be selfish.

You need to be a bit more independent and this experience will make you a better person in the long run. His loss.

Don't worry about this guy when there's probably a lot more single guys who would love to meet/encounter you.

Mc Kenzie

Its probably not what you wan to hear but sometimes the best thing to do is just move on. Lingering and pining after someone like this your only putting yourself through pain.

Trust me, in time youll meet someone new and youll wonder why you waisted your time on that guy. !