Chat Up Via Facebook?

LegacyUser

I just wondered what peoples opinions would be on getting a girls number/offering mine over FB? Now let me make it clear I do know the girl in person and we got on really well, she even told me before that I was hot and would love to get with me. Now at the time, I was young, stupid and shy so nothing came of it, although I will admit I really liked her.

The thing is, it's been 3/4 years since we last spoke in person. I'd be 22, her 21 now. Of course I realize people change and maybe she mightn't be interested any more, but I figure no guts no glory right? She's listed as single on it and I wondered would it be weird if I randomly started chatting via FB chat or something? It would be very hard to just "run into her" if I was out and get chatting, as we don't really head the same places. I was thinking of maybe chatting away for a bit, then saying give me a text sometime if you want, my num is: 08xxxxxx.

What do you all think? Ladies advice in particular, would it creep you out?

LegacyUser

Hi Op


I met my current girlfriend on facebook,she works in a local supermarket in my town,i found it impossible to ask her out at work because everytime i tried there where so many customers and management around,and if she had said no it would have been highly embarressing for both of us,I saw her profile on facebook and added her as friend which he accepted,Now she didnt know me from adam, I asked her out which she thought it was very weird,but she obliged and we met up, that was a few months ago,and everything is still going great ,my advice op is go for it,all all she can say is no

I am a friend

I wouldnt think it creepy - you know her. Just take it slowly though.

Miss Fluff

Should I? wrote: »

I was thinking of maybe chatting away for a bit, then saying give me a text sometime if you want, my num is: 08xxxxxx.

Definitely chat to her but then when you're ready I'd ask for her number rather than telling her to text you if "she wants". Ask for her number and then call her and ask her out It's great that you know already that she is single etc so I'd get the skates on

Vicxas

Chat to her before you ask her for her number.

Richard Hillman

Just PM her and say "I lost my phone, can everyone send me your numbers?" or the same thing with your "New" number.

UrbanSea

Richard Hillman wrote: »

Just PM her and say "I lost my phone, can everyone send me your numbers?" or the same thing with your "New" number.

I don't know,that might come across a bit weird as she wouldn't have a use for his number.

OP I'd say chat to her a few times on it before you go for her number,rather than trying the first time.

LegacyUser

Thanks so much everyone I just have to try and muster up a bit of courage now I'm telling myself I have to do it cause if I don't I'll always regret it to be honest.

Any advice on how I should open the convo? I know it sounds pathetic having to ask But after so long having passed and that, I think I might need more than a simple "Hello"

greenprincess

Should I? wrote: »

Thanks so much everyone I just have to try and muster up a bit of courage now I'm telling myself I have to do it cause if I don't I'll always regret it to be honest.

Any advice on how I should open the convo? I know it sounds pathetic having to ask But after so long having passed and that, I think I might need more than a simple "Hello"

Hey,

I think def go for it! I would ask for her number though, and dont leave it too long to text. Dont text straight away but maybe the next day or something.
Just keep is casual when ur chatting to her, be like 'Hi how're you? I havent talked to in ages' etc ask whats shes been up to. altho dont over talk cause then u'll have nothing to say on the 1st date!

jdivision

Just say that it's been a long time and ask how she's doing. If she's still interested she'll reply, then go from there. Good luck with it. And like others say, chat a few times before asking for her number. And no gimmicks like saying you lost your phone. Ask her for it straight out, she'll almost certainly like your confidence in doing so.

LC2010HIS

Happened to me with guys on FB.
I would ignore it, not cause its creepy(well..) but, suggests you give a number out on FB to girls all the time.

Face to face is best.

Turtwig

In all honesty, even if you do creep her out if you don't try you could still be asking yourself these same questions in ten, twenty, thirty.. years time. I don't think you will creep her out either, if she knows you then I'd say she'll be glad to hear from you, just obviously don't get too suggestive. Keep the first contact casual of course, then who knows, you maybe later might be able to suggest a casual meet up for coffee or something.