Win Her back

AverageJoe82

hi first time on this site and could do with some words of wisdom. Ok my ex gf said she wanted a break and this was back in feb and we been together nearly 3 years . we got on like house on fire liked same jokes movies music etc.. same friends etc...well when we split we didnt speak for a week and i rang her telling how much i loved her, so we agreed to meet up later that day and she said she just wanted time apart till college exams were over and felt like she needed to be with some1 else for 1 nite, which that killed me. i no we never cheated on each other once..anyway she agreed we couldf meet up and text each other ...and we live up d road from each other too..but recently she be getting mad wit me for no reason at all when i asked her to a wedding next month she told me to [EMAIL="f@£k"]f@£k[/EMAIL] off for noting..when i said i wanted to meet face to face she went crazy..now saying this only a month before we went on a break we were talking about getting married ...i love her so much i no she d 1 for me and just want advice on how i could win her back and do i need to give her time and space

Taltos

OP - you won't like this so I am not going to sugar coat this.

Your relationship is more than likely over.
She was attempting to let you down gently hoping that the time apart would lessen the pain.

Suggestion:
Give her all the space she needs. Delete her number, just try to get on with your life. Who knows maybe someday she might change her mind. However - anything you do to try to help that change will just drive a deeper wedge between you both...

Sorry.

mrpink6789

yep like said above seems like she is checking out unfortunately. best way to "win her back" is give her all the time she needs, a chance to miss you. its 50/50 really if she will come back. but not contacting her is your best bet.

Bloody Nipples

Bear in mind, you'll want to come out of this with your dignity intact. So if you're getting the hint that she thinks it's over, don't make a fool of yourself by being unable to accept the reality. She wants to sleep around she said it herself and trying to win back her affections may only piss her off and result in her losing all respect for you.

Unfortunately, it's not looking good bud.

I am a friend

Didn't read it all - it was too hard to read in text speak

seanrose

yeah averagejoe,

I am going through the same thing myself,I didnt want to give up our relationship easy and told her as much,just said she is happy being alone and wants to do things (not that i ever stopped her).

We met a week ago after being apart for 5 weeks and i never mentioned looking to get back together,we lived together in my house so she called to get her stuff and i never mentioned getting back together,i was like a sick puppy for 5 weeks but have coped myself on now,

we also talked about marriage about a month before the break-up,relationships are crazy like that i guess

We said we would be friends but now i know we cant or wont be,its impossible,forget about her now and cut contact,if its meant to be itl happen but as bloody nipples said keep your dignity,i may have lost a bit of mine but il get over that,

Wompa1

I'm going to go against the grain. Everybody says save your dignity and hold back etc. I don't know about your but I feel like if I'm being left for somebody else or to go off and sleep around I'd think that's not somebody I'd ever like to have in my life again or get back with. So why try to save face with her. Do what you feel is right, at least you'll have satisfied your own mind

Taltos

Wompa1 wrote: »

I'm going to go against the grain. Everybody says save your dignity and hold back etc. I don't know about your but I feel like if I'm being left for somebody else or to go off and sleep around I'd think that's not somebody I'd ever like to have in my life again or get back with. So why try to save face with her. Do what you feel is right, at least you'll have satisfied your own mind

While this can have some pluses - why flog a dead horse?
At the end of the day the OP has to live with himself and his choices - and if all he remembers is chasing her around like a love sick pup well - all that will lead to is regret or even self disgust.

His ex has asked for time - so in my experience the plan that works best is give her more time and space than she knows how to cope with.
a) You have a better chance of healing and moving on
b) If she does change her mind hopefully this space will help you to see things clearly so you can decide calmly if you want more of the same....

Each to their own though.

Kevin Duffy

I have no idea why you would want to win this woman back. You may have been good together once, but that's gone if she wants to sleep with somone else, as is her respect for you. There will be other women and you will find one that treats you better than this. Let it go move on, don't waste time chasing this.

seanrose

The only other advice i can give you and it is something i thought about myself thats why i finished it on good terms,if she god forbid had a serious accident and died how after 3 years would you feel about how your relationship ended,try and end it on good terms and then stay the hell away for your own mental state

beeintheknow

Lock her in your dungeon imo

Silverfish

beeintheknow wrote: »

Lock her in your dungeon imo

That's enough. Banned

Mc Kenzie

trying to "win her back"? why would you do this to yourself,. in my opinion doing this will only make it twice as hard for yourself to get over. I know it mite not be easy and may upset you, but try an accept it and move on.