Dating websites?

LegacyUser

Four months ago, I broke up with the girl I love very much. We had been together 3 years. It was a mutual break up.

I’m 37 and I wonder about dating websites. Are there any good ones out there? I’ve had a lot of girlfriends over the years some long term, but the thing is I’m actually very shy. I’d have no problem going on a first date for example, but I would have a problem putting my picture & a profile up on a site. I’d be scared that other people from my locality are looking and they would see this as weak etc.

That said, I keep getting told I’m a great bloke and I’ve a lot to offer. I’m a house & car owner and get on great with my workmates. I’m not a bit materialistic so what another person earns or if they have their own house or car doesn’t bother me. Also, the last two relationships just did not work out for different reasons so nothing to be ashamed of there.

What do you all advise? To be honest I’ve had enough of niteclubs, been there done that. I would like to meet someone of a similar age who would be interested in a relationship. The thing is I just do not know where to begin. So any help anyone has would be great.

Thanks,

M98

Lon Dubh

There is a thread in the Gentlemans Forum (on boards) on internet dating. This is one site that a few people joined and it is free, okcupid, and these others ones have also been mentioned, Another friend, Maybe friends, and Plenty of Fish. Some might not suit you, as sometimes there are not many people from one's age group on them , or not many people living nearby, but you could always try a few of the free ones anyway.

I am shy too but decided to bit the bullet. In some ways I think this could be ideal for someone like me, especially as I don't go to clubs etc.

I don't really care if anyone sees me on it (as they will only see me if they are on it too!). You might want to check privacy settings on the different sites so that you can click that only registered members can see your picture (the one I joined had this setting as automatic). That was my main worry, i didn't really want my picture paraded all over the internet.

Personally, I think it is better to put your picture as otherwise potential dates might think you are married or something (and trying to hide your identity), or they might imagine there is something else wrong. I found myself on one I joined that it was off-putting if there was no picture (though I don't care so much about looks) as sometimes it is hard to get an idea of someone from their profile alone. If you put up a picture I would suggest one where you are smiling and/or look friendly as it is more inviting.

However if you cannot face putting your picture up you could maybe say in your profile that you would be happy to send it to anyone who wants it?

S23

M98 wrote: »

I’d be scared that other people from my locality are looking and they would see this as weak etc.
M98

I can't really give you much advice about this as I haven't done it myself. I wouldn't worry about giving it a go and if I was single I wouldn't hesitate to do it if I felt it was a good way of meeting people.

I will just add two things related to the bit I've quoted you on

1) F*ck what anyone else thinks about what you do. Look out for #1.
2) If people from your locality saw you on the site a) they are obviously on the site and b) they wouldn't have a leg to stand on calling you 'weak' or anything else for that matter.

Best of luck

Otis Driftwood

Im afraid this isnt a relationship issue OP.If you queries about online dating then check the thread in the gentlemens club,you will find a link under my avatar on the left.Thread closed.