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Worry about kids for no reason

  • 15-06-2011 9:24am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I often have an issue getting to sleep, due to constant thoughts of harm coming to my children. It happens maybe 3 times per week, sometimes less often.

    It occurs just as the lights go out, in that few moments where you wind down your head to get into sleep mode. I start having vivid thoughts of them getting hit by a car, falling off a cliff, getting kidnapped, getting beaten up, etc. During the day, these thoughts never enter my head, it is only as I'm trying to drift off to sleep.

    It lasts around 10-30 mins, sometimes I need to get up and clear the head, sometimes I am able to force myself to think about something else, and eventually nod off to sleep.

    Home and family life is fine & dandy. Happily married, the kids have a great life and the bills are all paid. There has never even been any major accidents with them that would push me into thinking this way.

    Is it just think its normal worry for one's offspring, or do I indeed have a Personal Issue?


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  • #2
    Cunning Stunt
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,301 ✭✭✭Cunning Stunt


    I had problems like this before and it was hard to break the cycle.You probably think ''oh god I hope I won't think about that again'' before you go to bed every night, and then of course that starts you thinking about it.

    You are probably a 'deep thinker' and need to learn to let go of these thoughts when they enter your head. Just shrug them away. The more time and energy you spend on them, the more you will get them.


  • #3
    neuro-praxis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,184 ✭✭✭neuro-praxis


    A handy trick I learned from someone wise is, in these moments, to visualise a large red STOP sign, and concentrate on it to divert the thoughts. It is surprisingly helpful.


  • #4
    argentum
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 514 ✭✭✭argentum


    Yeah sometimes you do think the worst alright.I wonder did our parents worry about us also and we just never knew.I find apart from the obvious that the best way to clear my mind before sleep is to read a book.I dont worry about work/money /kids once my mind is focused on a good thriller.
    Maybe this might help


  • #5
    chloek
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 202 ✭✭chloek


    What age are the kids ?

    If they are out at night time it is perfectly natural to worry about them, you will relax about it all in time. If they are still at home with you it's probably the thought of them growing up and all the problems they will encounter.
    Your worry about your kids, it makes you a good parent.


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